[quote]Tank53 wrote:
I really wonder if you just have a perfectionist complex. Meaning, you have a fear of failure and need to over analyze everything to guard yourself from failing. It makes sense and there are plenty of people that do that. On the surface, it appears like it isn’t a problem. I mean think about it, keep a perfectly clean home or need to know everything. But those are safe guards to insecurity.
The solution? Live a little bit more of life. Take things with a grain of salt. Look around and realize everybody fails, but how they react is all differently. You have to be able to be comfort with youself even after failure.
Personally i cannot do this without a religious spin on it but I’ll spare everyone. I just know without my beliefs I couldnt get very far on my own. [/quote]
I believe I’ve made some decisions in life that were not very good. Not that I’ve fucked anything up, as in when people usually say “I’ve made some bad decisions in my life”, not that way, nothing that serious. Just some things that I wish I would’ve done differently. It could be that I don’t want to waste a lot more time making the wrong decisions. So maybe it is a fear a failure in a way, but not the kind that totally paralyses me and leads me to doing absolutely nothing, not like that.
As for being a perfectionist, I wouldn’t call myself that. I don’t really strive to keep my pad clean, I don’t need to know everything about everything. My father actually tells me I’m not punctual enough.
I do like to do my job properly though.
And I’m always looking for the best, easiest, most efficient, quickest way to do things, which in a lot of cases, isn’t a good way to go. I can be watching a movie just to wait for it to end, for example.
I might also add that my goal is to have everything going well for me for an extended period of time. I don’t think I’ve ever had that, not for a long period of time at least. To have my social life, athletics, school/work, family matters is what I’m aiming for. I guess that’s quite of lot to ask from myself, but there are people who are happy with their life. I want to be one of them.
i react to failure by analyzing what I did wrong and try to improve on that. Hence my current situation.
And oh yeah, no need to spare me with your religious spins, don’t know about others though.