I wasn't referring to T-mag. I like T-mag more than any other forum because although there are far less posters than other boards like BB or GB, most of the posters here are compassionate, mature, and intelligent (including yourself). I once was a rude, rabble-rouser of a poster here, but I repented for that and cut it out three years ago.
Perhaps I am a bit of a hard liner, but looking back on how long it took me to mature and develop into a man and recognizing this same thing in other men I grew up with, it is clear that there are some consequential things in our society that are leading to the stunted development of young people. I am no Steven King, but I think my writing is at least understandable. I might not have the best sentence structure, but at least I have received good grades on papers in school, know how to write professional emails and reports for work, work my around Microsoft Suite, and write persuasive resumes and cover letters.
There was a time before I was born in which much was expected for even children in elementary school regarding writing and reading. That has been lost, and I see adults my age struggling to write cover letters and resumes for mid-level professions (we are not talking bios of ambitious CEO's here). They need a week until they get the most basic of thoughts on paper. And much of what I read on social media are botched, angst-laden ramblings of text speak and hip-hop slang. It is very hard to take these people seriously and I am often unsurprised when I read articles about high unemployment of young people. Granted, I do believe there is a job crisis, to this day, but posting every damn action and feeling in such ways on social media do not lend to gaining employment.
I agree with all of this.
I believe that bodybuilding, now more than ever, attracts many socially and emotionally stunted people. I don't know whether it is from lack of strong fathers or fathers at all, which I have observed for many meatheads I have known, AND MYSELF. When people are unsure of themselves and insecure, they are aware of this, and often take on a self-absorbed, hedonistic, defensive, and mushy-headed worldview. Hence many people in the "fitness community" are always saying asinine, infantile things such as, "Who are you/we to judge?", "Why do you care? It doesn't hurt anybody," "Do what you love," "Alpha this, alpha that," and why there is rampant misogyny expressed on boards and why guys on all these message boards are confused about how to get a woman and are trying to become more alpha and going down the PUA route, and so on. Many of them seem out of touch and downright delusional on many things.
In closing, I am NOT perfect, and much of this criticism I give here is actually applied to my former self. I too once was a lost soul that turned to this hobby to fill a void or in the hopes that I can get more out of it than one can reasonable get from a hobby regarding socialization or recognition. I hope that it helps me in working in nutrition/dietetics and am thankful that some of my closest friends were acquired by engaging in it. It's fun, and I feel awesome doing it and am very passionate about it. But that's where it ends, if you get the drift.
Sorry for the rambling. It shows I trust those here to speak my mind.