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Old Dude Attitude

Ok men, do u really care about the number of years as much as you do how you feel physically? Certainly the two are proportional but dammit, I’ll “gut it out” next to anyone regardles of age, And the odds are that due to life experiences, out discipline and dedication to goals will outpace younger pups.

The reason I’m posting this is because my wife insists that I don’t "act my age."
Why the hell should we care?!

I behave as I feel, and if that’s higher speed than the average man of my years I see it as my “winning” the game :slight_smile:

Warriors win. Old men sit at home and don’t go to war. Screw that! I’d rather die “in battle” over in bed any day!

The whole “you’re an old dog, just roll over” stuff is pure BS.

I refuse to fit the paradigm but am sure as hell willing to break it!

How about you men? Keep “fighting” or “surrender” to a number? I’m guessing those who still train choose to “fight” in all areas of life :wink:

Ya all take care’. (tirade over)


Do not go gentle into that good night
Dylan Thomas, 1914 - 1953

Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Though wise men at their end know dark is right,
Because their words had forked no lightning they
Do not go gentle into that good night.

Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright
Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight,
And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way,
Do not go gentle into that good night.

Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight
Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

And you, my father, there on the sad height,
Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray.
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.


Nice points there lol. I’d nearly forgotten about that poem and how it just resonates!

Sorry but I need to ask before we go on, does this involve any of:

  • a manbun, pony tail and/or receding hairline
  • the use of slang (do you say hombre?)
  • a bandana
  • accessories that begin with man (eg manbag)
  • talk about the women you’ve scored with
  • a sports car?

I assume the question is for me…

None of those things in my world, thanks.


I agree with everything, but this:

“Screw that! I’d rather die “in battle” over in bed any day!”

Need to change to: I’d rather die in bed screwing She Say and my neighbor’s daughter anyway rather than ‘in battle’

I’d take it as a compliment with your wife telling you you don’t act your age.

I read somewhere 40+ women don’t like dating guys their age because they’re boring (acting their age).

I’ll be gosh darned if I’m gonna miss out on 40+ year old poon !


I can’t argue with most of that logic. However, the neighbors daughter could definitely cause a “battle” with the neighbor!

My wife saying that = compliment, yes. It also = irritating as hell sometimes. But, she’s my wife and has that right (to irritate me.)!

I think I frame damn near everything as a battle. Well, except the poon you mention. That’s more a fiesta!

Fact is, women peak in their early 30’s vs us men in our mid-20’s. At least that’s what I’ve read. I disagree with it but that’s “what they say.”

I just have no interest in conforming to an “age” by the number. Screw that.

In my experience guys who start to “act their age” get old and die. I think a young mind leads to a young body. God only give us so many years, and I want to use all of them.

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I soooo agree!

I’ve noticed that some of the people who live the longest are also active the longest. Lying down in “retirement” creates an attitude of one’s productive years being over so ‘why bother?’

My dad for example, worked long hours for 30 some odd years, always saving for retirement so he could kick back on the recliner and command the TV. The self-induced mental stress, added to the self-induced physical stress and poor nutrition choices equaled a heart attack that did put him in the recliner, but I’ll be damned if he was doing anything other than existing. Dude got vascular dementia and the last two years of his life required my family to tend him like a 2 year old. Thing about that was, I know if he’d seen a preview of those last two years on tv, he’d have ran screaming into the night. No way anyone wants to exist at 70+ years old having to be fed and diapered, but quick as we get all gluttonous about taking it easy, that’s precisely the direction we’re heading.

If anything in my last years, I want to have my ass out and about, but more importantly I want to help my kids with my earned wisdom to do their best in their endeavors. Definitely don’t want my ass glued to a chair or to be flat on my back.

So yeh, “acting one’s age” is caving to a number. Whether I live one more minute or 100 more years, I want to live every frickin day the best I can. When I go I want it to be like I’m sliding into a stolen base as I hit the grave. And yes I equate such to a battle-a battle against the temptation to chill too long.

Glad we got some comments on this topic!

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Age is only a number, my old dear is turning 75 soon, still works, is out and about constantly, partying, holidaying and living life.
My grandpa just died at the ripe old age of 100, he still lived in his own home, was self sufficient and was busy until the day he died. I remember going there a few years ago and he had been out digging on the road in a storm to allow storm water flow better so I totally agree, age is just a number, unless you let it become a mindset!

Don’t know how I just now saw this!

That’s very cool about your grandparents. Mine were similar, except my papaw died at 76 from a frickin aneurism. They were mountain people, him a coal miner. My mamaw made it to 92 and until 86 was lively. A funny thing-she lived alone for a while in Harlan, Ky. Little old lady. One of the kids went to visit & when they walked in there she sat with a 357 wobbling in her old hand.

Then her parents had lived into their 90’s. Her grandpa farmed, worked in the mine, AND had his own sawmill. Talk about long hours of back breaking work ya know?! And never a complaint. That’s who passed down a phrase that many use, “If u see something needs done, lay your hands to it.”

Anyway, yeh age is a number for sure. I personally intend to live to 100 before the wife calls LE on me for unwanted advances :slight_smile:


I don’t know the situation but if your wife is telling you to act your age she’s telling you your behavior is embarrassing.

And I’m saying its ridiculous for anyone to cite my age to attempt controlling my behaviors. . :slight_smile: If I do something rude, am confident she would say “you’re being rude,” not "act your age."
It’s the whole putting someone in a box - pigeonholed to behave as desired not as required.
My typical response goes, "Babe did we just meet?!"
Then I get the “you’re crazy” line, to which I simply reply we established that years ago & I thought that was part of the draw !

I’m not about fitting a paradigm. Breaking them yes, but not conforming to…blame Emerson’s “Civil Disobedience” for reinforcing that attitude…I’ll almost always be civil but will behave as I wish inside the parameters set by law and my Faith, and very few can ever stay completely within the parameters of either of those, much less both at all times.

Echo what others have said here, you’re as old as you feel and keeping active whilst keeping your mind sharp will go a long way to keeping you healthy into old age! Add to that the perks we all have living in the West in the 21st century…

My mum’s dad grew up dirt poor, had polio as a kid and was at Normandy aged 18, worked as a butcher, lifted, ate lots of meat and lived into his 80s. I think he’d have gone on a lot longer had it not been for the way he grew up.

My dad’s dad passed away this year at 101. He grew up on a farm, saw the first German bombers pass over his head in Poland in 1939, spent 5 years in a POW camp and then spent 25 years unable to see his family after the fall of the iron curtain. He played tennis, rode horses, swam and walked all of his life and only really stopped his daily walks around the neighbourhood when he got to 97 or 98. Diet? Meat, vegetables, fruit, oats, eggs, milk, alcohol. The fact that he smoked 40 a day from his late teens into his late 40s suggests he was probably also blessed with some pretty fine genetics of course!

Dont get that one…

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Sorry but I need to ask before we go on, does this involve any of:

a manbun, pony tail and/or receding hairline
the use of slang (do you say hombre?)
a bandana
accessories that begin with man (eg manbag)
talk about the women you’ve scored with
a sports car

Was just reading this thread again…

You’re describing a typical mid-life crisis set of symptoms lol. Missed that initially.
Makes me think of a pudgy bald old dude wearing a bandana with a 70’s band name in 2" letters, in a tiny bright red convertible, dressed in something from his son’s wardrobe.
That where u were going with that?

I’m a bit dense about some things, but even I know what tasteful attire is and what looks just plumb ridiculous. My splurge on a vehicle, if I were going to, would be a Silverado 1500 Crew Cab LTZ…and the most graphic display of anything for me is a flag t-shirt or the like.

But no, wasn’t taking about the sort of silliness we’ve all seen from geriatrics with too much money trying to appear young even though under those ripped jeans they’re wearing a depends, and one romp with a hot chick would give them a massive coronary.

I’m just “regular” in those sorts of areas.

This started when my wife commented about us being middle-aged and me taking a joke too far about how I intend to live to 101, so I’ll not be middle-aged till I’m 50.
Of course I know by definition it starts at 32 or so, but it struck me that she really believes we should fit into a category about which I personally could care less, cause it’s defined by a number. Because I’m 47 I shouldn’t try to lift as much as possible in the gym cause I might get hurt?

Ithink most people just have a filter that’s thicker than mine and don’t argue when someone tries to get them to conform to an arbitrary societal standard. I’d prefer to set or improve a standard, but that’s getting into subjectivity that’s beyond the scope of the OP point.

Peace ya all :slight_smile: