Not Seeing Eye to Eye with Friends

[quote]Christine wrote:

Your shirts shore are purdy.[/quote]

ha i got that. what i don’t get are the two refrences to strip clubs in each thread

[quote]jre67t wrote:
Good advice here, but I remember a study that stated that your friends are mostly and always based upon your income. The higher you climb in income range the more likely you are to change friends and lifestyle choices. There are those few friends who are exceptions.
Houstonguy did you not go from rags to riches? [/quote]
I went from suburbs to college to a sweet job to entrepreneurship. Not exactly rags but I did leverage momentum to a new level of prosperity. Some friends were helpful and supportive, other were distractions to be kept in check, even if only mentally. It’s still that way.

Fuck…Im still living in the basement, crushing Warcraft each night till 4 am and jacking off to internet porn thats getting progressively more hardcore each month, I didn’t even know amputee midgets getting Anal even turned me on until 6 hours ago.

[quote]LessTraveled wrote:
Fuck…Im still living in the basement, crushing Warcraft each night till 4 am and jacking off to internet porn thats getting progressively more hardcore each month, I didn’t even know amputee midgets getting Anal even turned me on until 6 hours ago.[/quote]
Just keep the midget fantasies in check.

OP; Nards/MacGyver has given you very good advice. For the past 2 years I have lived a Monks life, and I am just realising now that there are more important things in life besides been 8% bodyfat.

Allow yourself to get drunk every second Saturday night. Rehydrate before sleep. Cheat when its your cheat day. Bang as many girls as possible. When your 50, your dick doesnt work aswell as it should.

Be free. Be a bird.

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[quote]HoustonGuy wrote:

[quote]LessTraveled wrote:
Fuck…Im still living in the basement, crushing Warcraft each night till 4 am and jacking off to internet porn thats getting progressively more hardcore each month, I didn’t even know amputee midgets getting Anal even turned me on until 6 hours ago.[/quote]
Just keep the midget fantasies in check.[/quote]

Shits hard bro

[quote]LessTraveled wrote:

[quote]HoustonGuy wrote:

[quote]LessTraveled wrote:
Fuck…Im still living in the basement, crushing Warcraft each night till 4 am and jacking off to internet porn thats getting progressively more hardcore each month, I didn’t even know amputee midgets getting Anal even turned me on until 6 hours ago.[/quote]
Just keep the midget fantasies in check.[/quote]

Shits hard bro[/quote]
I understand. At least it’s just a small problem.

[quote]Hubbend wrote:
Still been ripping going out 2-4 times a month, it’s almost like they don’t want me to succeed. Scoff at me going into the office on the wknd to get something done, scoff at the notion of studying for a certification exam or just eating clean and going hard in the gym. Almost makes me think they want me to stay on a level playing field.[/quote]

Sounds to me like your friends might be a little bit jealous of you. Ever seen the movie The Change-up?

Also go out with your friends on a weeknight but don’t drink so much. Four beers won’t mess you up if you have to get up at 6.
But just tell your friends you’re already on beer 6 or something and tell them to hurry up and drink more and that will shut them up.

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]HoustonGuy wrote:
As long as you prioritize, cocaine, booze and success can exist together.

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Not to be a jerk, but are you even old enough to conclude this? I mean, isn’t most of your adult life still way yet to happen? [/quote]
I guess it depends on how you define success.

If cocaine and booze cancel out the definition of success then we have a fundamental but subjective issue seeing eye to eye.

If you define success by setting goals that you stretch to reach and continuously stretch further, I could most like teach the majority of 80 year olds a thing or two.

[quote]Nards wrote:
Also go out with your friends on a weeknight but don’t drink so much. Four beers won’t mess you up if you have to get up at 6.
But just tell your friends you’re already on beer 6 or something and tell them to hurry up and drink more and that will shut them up.[/quote]
Just a few beers and home by 11 always turns in to a black out night though. After every beer, one more won’t hurt. It’s a natural law of the universe.

Well yeah, I’d likely end up having 7 beers or so, but this is a case of do as I say not as I do.

[quote]honest_lifter wrote:
I have just been going through this situation. I am 27 years old. A bunch of my old friends weren’t crazy partiers. Instead, they spent the majority of the their time playing sports, and going out to eat, and watching movies. Oh, and spent a ton of time gossiping. I was a part of this until I was about 19-20, and then started to really get involved in improving myself. Learning new languages, improving my employment, and the like. They continued to do nothing productive. Continued with the “hanging out” and such, not advancing personally or professionally. When I was 25, I moved out to Chicago from the suburbs and since then have really lost touch with the “old group”. I have found new friends and we all have similar goals. I have occasionally gone out to play sports and hang out with the other guys. They have not changed. Still the same old same old stuff. The only difference is, they complain a lot more now, gossip more, and are in worse shape. I am glad I made the changes I did. [/quote]

This is basically my story as well. Sometimes I feel like an entirely different person when I occassionally visit these people, having moved out of the area and also done a great deal to improve myself.

OP, I think your situation is normal. Go ahead and move on. It’s really, really worth it.

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]HoustonGuy wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]HoustonGuy wrote:
As long as you prioritize, cocaine, booze and success can exist together.

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Not to be a jerk, but are you even old enough to conclude this? I mean, isn’t most of your adult life still way yet to happen? [/quote]
I guess it depends on how you define success.

If cocaine and booze cancel out the definition of success then we have a fundamental but subjective issue seeing eye to eye.

If you define success by setting goals that you stretch to reach and continuously stretch further, I could most like teach the majority of 80 year olds a thing or two.[/quote]

Actually, my point was that you’re really a far way from the “end of the story.”

I’d guess there’ve been lots of guys who were quite successful while using drugs and alcohol for a while, but in the end would have disputed your original statement (given how their lives ultimately turned out). [/quote]probably. I’m not convinced being drunk on Friday and high on Saturday will affect me on Monday, however. Even if it does, fuck it, I won’t fire myself. Successful people lose their shit over marriage, trusted friends and other wholesome activities too. Blaming booze and drugs for failure is a red herring. Failures on drugs fail.

Blaming drugs is like blaming a gun for a shooting. Guns don’t abuse themselves.

[quote]FightinIrish26 wrote:
At 27, I am very glad that my career is going the way I want.

I am also very glad that I am not married yet, because the people who I see that married early, are fucking miserable.

The divorces have already started for a couple of them.

Having fun and being responsible are not mortal enemies though. Keep that in mind. It’s not all one or all the other.[/quote]

Wait until you’re in your 40’s and then marry a much younger woman. Best of all worlds. Don’t wait too long though or it gets creepy for the girls your chasing.

[quote]comus3 wrote:

[quote]FightinIrish26 wrote:
At 27, I am very glad that my career is going the way I want.

I am also very glad that I am not married yet, because the people who I see that married early, are fucking miserable.

The divorces have already started for a couple of them.

Having fun and being responsible are not mortal enemies though. Keep that in mind. It’s not all one or all the other.[/quote]

Wait until you’re in your 40’s and then marry a much younger woman. Best of all worlds. Don’t wait too long though or it gets creepy for the girls your chasing. [/quote]

Also think hard about all this house buying as a sign of success at age 25. What if you wan’t to get up and move around this big world to find the right life fit?

[quote]HolyMacaroni wrote:
i am 25 with a successful career and i like to party[/quote]

You’re saying a lot of good things, and I understand where you’re coming from, but once you get out of a small town and to a big city you’ll see guys well into their late 30’s partying like their 22, running through chicks like they’re getting paid to do it and all the while maintaining successful careers.

I grew up in the suburbs of Chicago and you definitely have your townies that didn’t go to school or finish and are just hanging out hitting the same neighborhood bars every weekend, fucking hairdressers and school teachers, but living in the city is completely different.

When I moved downtown I was shocked to see older guys at bars and clubs everywhere pounding drinks and dropping cheesy pick up lines on chicks that could be their daughters, and at the same time chicks in their late 20’s and mid 30’s getting hammered, cruising for dick, and on monday going to work as lawyers and CFO’s.

Basically what I’m trying to say is that it sounds like you wanna just move out of your small town and find friends that have similar goals as you, but you gotta understand that being driven and partying are not mutually exclusive, and for your own sake DONT GET MARRIED BEFORE 30, youll be worse off than your friends now.