i dont understand why a parents beliefs and values MUST be forced upon their children. Don’t the parents have enough respect and trust in their child to make SOME decisions, especially ones involving values?
Afterall isn’t parenting guidance, not strict orderly dictatorship?
I would ask my son to follow so and so advice, but should he not, then that was his choice, ofcourse he would suffer the consequences should the choice be “wrong”, but i’m not going to go out of my way and physically punish him just to skew his motivation for making a choice. religion was a bad example, but imagine he chose X and really messed up, when i told him Y, then he would have learned a valuable lesson, that’s life.
If i was to physically punish him for not following my guidance, It would just teach him to make choices on the basis of “whatever doesn’t get me into trouble”, rather than “what is most beneficial to my position, or what i really want to do”, which is my philosophy in life, not necessarily others.
Ofcourse this is my opinion and you can raise your kids any damn way you please, but i’m not gonna say i don’t get fucking ragingly PISSED when i see some grownup raging on his defenseless son(or daughter), FUCK THAT. gets my blood boiling just talking about it.
being 20 y/o though my current plan is to never have kids.
Yeah i agree with you, except the religion part. I don’t want to get into a big religion debate, but to me it’s not different than any other lifestlye choice. A framework of beliefs should be passed on to your children sure, but only a framework. Again they should be taught to interpret and develop thier own core beliefs based on that framework. If they decide that they do not want to believe in something, it shouldn’t be up to you to force it on them for them to believe. You can’t make someone beleive something. They have to choose to.
I’ll use myself as an example here. I personally do not believe in God. I never really have. My wife does. So our children go to church with my wife, and I go sometimes to support them, but not always. I don’t want my prejudice to affect their ability to decide for themselves what to believe. I also don’t want to fake that I believe something just so they will- what would that be teaching them? They know that mom believes and dad doesn’t, and they understand (well one of them does, the other is too young) that at some point in their lives they will need to decide what is important for them. When they are old enough and I feel mature enough to decide, they can choose whether or not to attend church.
Otherwise great post. I think it’s important for kids to make mistakes to learn too. I think you’d make a good dad based on your opinions, don’t count out kids yet. There is absolutely nothing in life like having someone call you dad at the end of the day. Trust me.
I also believe religion is not an exception to the rule, i had originally used that in my post, but i too, did not want to get into a huge religion debate, so i left it out. I also share your religious beliefs(disbeliefs?). haha.
thanks for the great discussion.
To the ovo-vegetarian: my advice, eggs are an EXCELLENT source of protein. I would capitalize on that source.
If milk is allowed that’s a great source as well.
Each group of vegetable proteins are somewhat lacking, however using proper combinations it is possible, but not easy, to get everything you need. Here is a brief overview:
Group #1) Breads, Cereals, & Grains
Group #2) Legumes (peas, beans, & lentils)
Group #3) Vegetables
Group #4) Nuts & Seeds
Combine group #1 with any other group and you’ve now got complete amino acid supply.
Personally I’d see if they allow a rice based protien powder, that would solve alot of problems.