[quote]heavythrower wrote:
for all the females on this thread who have a story about a mom getting worked over in the family courts after a divorce, cry me a river and give me a fucking break.
for every one of those stories there is over 100 that goes the other way.
I lived this, and did tons of research, the fact is that not just the majority of times, but the VAST majority of time, fathers get a raw deal in family court.
a father’s role in the development of the child is thrown out the window and the father is reduced to just an financial asset for the divorce attorneys and the mom to seize.
I am going to bow out of this thread now, I am sure somebody will add their two cents about how moms get worked too, well, fuck that.
it happens way, way more often to dads, and it is a very emotional and touchy subject to me.
I know in my heart that I am a better parent than my ex, and I know my girls would be thriving if they lived with me full time.
but because I have a penis, the cards were stacked against me all the time.\
my ex came busting into my house while the kids were with me during my legal time with them and literally, literally RIPPED my 2 year old from my arms, if I had not let go of her, her arms probabley would have been dislocated.
I called the police, and they told me that it sucked, but if anyone was going to jail it was me, because: “I just cant hand cuff these little girls mommy and take her away in front of them sir, sorry”
went through 3 attorneys, because each one I felt was not trying hard enough to get me either joint physical custody, until the last one was frank with me,
'unless you have video of mom doing crack IN FRONT of the kids, you are going to get visitation and have to pay child support, I will be glad to take a lot of money from you, but that is how it will end up regardless"
so I will post no more on this subject, say whatever you want, but I know I am right, and I feel myself getting angry and fighting back tears just thinking about this stuff again.
Dads, do not take ONE FUCKING MINUTE you have with your kids for granted, because it can be taken from you much easier than you think.
carry on…[/quote]
I have heard the same from so many people that it does act as a deterrence to going down that road.
I am sorry about what you have had to deal with and I think it will only change once more guys figure it out and either start making prenupts a normal part of marriage or start avoiding it altogether on paper.
I will say this though…I fee it is very irresponsible for people to log in and write how great their own situation is as if what you wrote is not what happens in most cases. Things like that seemed designed to get guys to ignore the risks involved as if they don’t matter or as if divorce is such a minor concern that you shouldn’t even think about that possibility…because it means you don’t love her enough.