So, what exactly are you asking here, brah? How to get leaner? How to increase certain lifts?
Without really understanding your post, and looking at your pics, I would estimate you're closer to 25% than 20% bf. As far as your nutritional approach, not sure what you mean by "counting calories" and protein. You mention, "not to the T" so it seems like you're not actually counting. Do you know how many calories you're getting each day? If you're just guessing then you're probably way off (as most of us are when we start counting for real and realize we weren't even close)
There are literally countless articles on the site listing tons of nutritional info. Here's a good one to get started: https://www.t-nation.com/diet-fat-loss/carb-cycling-codex. Carb cycling is the best way to take advantage of carbs for training, and leave them lower when you don't need them. Basic recommendation for protein is about 1.5g per pound of bodyweight. For example, I'm about 160lbs, so I get 240g protein per day.
Just wondering, why is your goal a bigger bench and deadlift? Are you trying to compete in a powerlifting comp soon? Regardless, tons of articles on here as well for increasing those lifts, and many, many other training programs. It sounds like you're just in need of a legit, consistent training program and consistent nutrition, rather than guess work.
If you can write a little more about your specific questions/goals, we can help you more.