You're always going to find conflicting points of view and the thing is, everybody's right because there are tons of paths towards the same goal or, as the saying goes, 'everything works... for about six weeks.'
Like Craze said, pretty much any plan that has you lifting 2-5 days a week and doing cardio 2-4 days a week will get you where you want to go. Pick almost any program from the archive here, follow it to the letter, and you should be set. Sounds like you're on the right track with nutrition, which is really crucial. But I am wondering what your definition of "I'm not eating badly" is.
Definitely good that you're setting some solid goals, but basic and effective goal-setting is S.M.A.R.T. (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-constrained). Setting some kind of timeframe puts things into some kind of context and prevents the "eh, any progress is still progress" mindset.
For example, dropping 20 pounds of fat by March 1st would be a short-term goal that gets you closer to your long-term goal.
For reference, Hardy is about your height and has said he was about 180 in that movie. Smart eating and a well-designed program that builds strength and muscle while dropping fat should get you working towards that. I'd consider taking weekly or bi-weekly progress pics (for your own reference or post them, your call) to make sure things stay on track.
Don't wait for everything to be planned before starting or else you'll always be waiting. I challenge you to do at least one full workout before Christmas. Could be 20 minutes of overhead presses and curls, whatever. Do something.