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Need Some High-School Dating Tips

#1

So there’s this girl who I find attractive. She was in my gym class last year. This year I see her at lunch sitting at a table diagonal from mine. I’ve been thinking about making a move. How do I go on about doing this?
Spam me with dating advice.

#2

Does she know who you are, or that you exist?

#3

Yeah we spoke before

#4

Do you share any common interests?

#5

I think she works out. She used to go to the school weight room freshman year. I think she got a gym membership judging by snapchat.

#6

I used to go on everyone of her Instagram lives. She would say hi. One time she said I was loyal cause I would always watch them. That was last summer lel.

#7

Just ask if like to grab a coffee/juice/whatever next few days. -basically something low key, low pressure
Dont make big deal out of it

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#8

This post makes me feel old as shit, but I guess I used to hit on girls on aol instant messenger, so I can relate- coming on too strong is a thing on the internet, too. I wish I could be like “ask her to get coffee” or something sensible like that, but you’re in high school. I used to find a way to sit next to a girl I liked in class or at lunch, make her laugh, get her number and go from there.

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#9

Lol! Right!

Exactly. It’s easy. Just start talking. Also, get used to making friends with girls. It’ll be easier when you talk to one you like.

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#10

Away messages got real as shit sometimes.

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#11

Thanks guys

#12

I’d say- it’s simple. I don’t know if it was ever easy for me, since I feared rejection in high school, but I went by the “fake it til you make it” mindset. And by “fake it”, I mean I pretended I wasn’t nervous, and that I didn’t care about possible rejection. and THEN it’s easy because you don’t seem needy or unsure of yourself.

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#13

Ha, you got me! I started typing simple then deleted everything I wrote and went with ‘easy’ for some reason.

Yes, op, it’s simple, but hard to do.

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#14

If I ask her if she wants to lift/workout with me after-school in the weightroom. Would that be too early?
and if she says no just forget about it?

#15

I partied nonstop during high school and didn’t touch a weight til I was 18, so I can’t comment on the efficacy of asking her to workout. I can tell you that asking her to workout and then just forgetting about her if she says no isn’t a very solid strategy for winning her affection.

#16

Hi, I’m a HS senior
TBH, she probably doesn’t know you’re into her and is equally afraid of approaching guys.
I wouldn’t suggest asking her out to the gym right away, especially if there’s debate over her commitment to the gym.
Maybe start with social media interaction (text, DMs etc) as a way to warm up and develop a connection until both of you guys feel comfortable enough to start in person interactions

#17

Didn’t read the other replies so soz if repeating anything.

Depends how close or we’ll you guys know each other already but just starting a conversation and getting to know someone should be a good start. “Come gym with me tonight” maybe a bit forward but like “Hey…so and so, we were in gym class together. Mind if I sit here. Insert further conversation e.g. reflection on gym class, what she did/does outside of that gym class? Etc.”

Overall get to know her as a person, be genuine, look to connect.

#18

Op … this

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#19

Have you tried 5/3/1?

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#20

I’d pay money to listen to Jim Wendler give high school dating advice.

Better yet, Mark Rippetoe. The answer is squats

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