Hey guys. A little background. My husband and I met while in the military and were both it tip top shape. Since then I have had 2 children. I was over weight for quite a while with my second child until I finally learned how to lose weight and build lean muscle. I dropped 40lbs and was approx 15 pounds within goal when I conceived again.
I gained quite a bit of weight (I have big babies lol, I have 3 kids total, 1st was 7lbs 12oz, 2nd 9lbs 5oz, and the most recent 10lbs 4oz) during the pregnancy. I delivered in June and have already lost 37lbs. I have roughly 59 to go.
My problem is this. During these past 5 years my husband has made no attempt to get in shape. He works a whole lot so I’m not asking him to spend hours at the gym, but maybe just take a walk with me in the evenings. I asked him to do P90X with me and he said no. He won’t even try 10 minute trainer. He just keeps eating junk, drinking sufargy energy drinks and his belly is getting bigger.
I know I sound extremely shallow, and I love my husband more than anything regardless of what he looks like but I know that belly fat is not only un sexy, its dangerous. I tell him this but he just says he’s fine and is ok where he is. He doesn’t want to change. I know he has to want it for himself because he doesn’t want to do it to make me happy (I miss his six pack) but how can I motivate him without coming accross as superficial?
I am making an effort to look my best and be my healthiest for myself yes but also for him, why can’t he do the same for me?