I’ll have to have a look later. I have to tell you, CT gave me his best guess as to what I am today based on my replies to the superhero article. I rewrote my replies to keep it as up-to-date as I could, maybe you want to go over my response as well and see what you end up with - and I can maybe acknowledge if you get it right
Extremely verbal, talk a lot, talk loud
I talk a lot, and can usually dominate a social setting, but I usually only do this if the conversation otherwise runs silent. I.e., I tend to fill a void, rather than just naturally take a lot of space out of the gate.
Always want to be the leader, the center of attention
I don’t seek out the role, but I tend to occupy it more often than not. For instance, I do not hold a managerial position at work but when my immediate bosses are away the rest of the team seems to auto-select me as a leader. Maybe because I’m the only one comfortable talking as much as is required.
Don’t deal well with authority
Loathe authority when it isn’t earned.
Very high self-esteem/confidence
Fairly high self-esteem.
Extreme competitiveness (trash talker, sore loser and winner)
I trash talk only if it improves the social situation, i.e. that level of jesting and playful banter seems to make others enjoy it more. This goes back to filling a void. Meaning, if I’m about to play a game of leisurely ping-pong with a coworker (I work at an office) I’ll trash-talk all the way there if
- This is a person I know well
- That person generally gets fired up and responds well to this.
although, this may just be a culture thing. Not sure what came first, my behaviour or that is culturally accepted to behave this way.
Need to win in every situation
Tend to burn the candle from both ends (very intense, but burn out easily)
I have burned out a few years back. Studied at ~150-200% while holding down a part-time job (technically 25% but in reality 50%)
Both yes and no. I hate bad rules, that don’t make sense. I hate inefficient rules and bureaucracy. I write rules for a living basically as a software developer and I don’t hate that.
Want to do things their own way
Generally yes, my way is usually pretty good and doesn’t take as much overhead as following in someone else’s mold. I try to draw from the experience of others and aggregate that so I can best accomplish my goals
Love to convince others that they are right
Very “goal driven”
Yes, but. My goals have changed. Now, I’m primarily focused on not burning out ever again more so than say excelling in my career.
No, not at all. I try to strategize to avoid conflict, while still accomplishing whatever it is I’m trying to do.
Don’t care what other people think of them
Used to, that takes a lot of effort though, so I’ve trained this trait away. Now I have to go more out of my way to care than not care.
Act on impulse and emotions
Yes, I’d argue all of my body-art are impromptu decisions that I’ve made. Same goes for purchasing items I don’t need.
Amazing under pressure
I can fair well under crunch time but I’m no longer motivated to do so, once again, my priorities have shifted to favour health.
Love to take risks
Type 1B. Omitting the overlap
Seek out intense activities (thrill seeker)
Not really, trying out more things in recent times though that are — to me — exciting. Inline skating, gymnastics (tumbling) etc.
Constantly need to try new experiences
Yes, to a certain extent. I need variation, definitely.
Very easy motor learning, great natural athletes
I have a very good sense of where my body is, but I’m not a great natural athlete as I’m not explosive. I sprint slower than just about anyone.
Fast, agile, explosive naturally
Very good at multi-tasking
Lots of imagination
I used to work as a designer before I became a software engineer so I have heaps of creativity
Can easily switch from relaxed to very active and get back to relaxed
I tend to stay wired once I get wired but getting there is usually tough
Is not affected by what others think of them, but still has consideration for them
Lower self-esteem when at rest
Potentiated by high adrenaline situations but can easily choke when there is too much
I have never choked
Want to get along with everybody
This is generally nice, but I’m fine with having some people disliking me
Excellent at creating personas, changing their personality depending on the situation
Incredibly adept at this. Huge chameleon. I naturally mimic people as I figure them out and can adapt to others to blend in very easily.
Need to create a reciprocity with the person they are talking to
That, or I’ll try and get away from the conversation
What others think of them is super important
Losing face is destructive for them
No, I’ve intentionally lost face sometimes.
Tend to mimick the most influencial person for them
Great at reading people
If I let myself I am, it’s a huge drain taking in all of that information.
Don’t like to make decisions
I make snap decisions often enough to answer this with a “no”
Fun to be around, like to have fun
Need variation, change
Their driving force is their need to earn the respect, admiration, acceptation of others
Not at all
Hate to feel left out, even in an activity they didn’t want to do in the first place
Upsetting, but not hate.
Procrastinate and do better work when they are last minute
Yes, this is a strategy I employ mindfully even.
More introverted but still need to have the approval and respect of others
I live a fairly introverted life
Much better 1-on-1 than in a group; very good in that situation
I enjoy groups more than 1-on-1 nowadays, this has shifted. Groups are generally less boring, more is happening. It’s more challenging
Used to be
Easily fall in love
Used to, has since grown disenchanted with the idea of love and so it takes a lot more for me to get excited about an other human being in that way
Love to dress well and look good
I used to show up to work every day in a dress-shirt and a suit. But, now that I work out before work I no longer do this to spare the clothes the inside of my gym bag.
Like displays of emotions, grand gestures
Give everything to each relationship, friendship, marriage, couple, family
Yes, part of why I burned out as well
Yes, historically at least.
Want to avoid disappointing others at all cost
“Others”, no, probably couldn’t care. Some people in my life though, sure, disappointing them would be rough.
Their greatest motivation is being loved, liked, desired, admired
Prefer to stick to activities they know and love
Are the best at listening to others and helping them
Probably were, now I struggle to care enough to listen to anyone who isn’t a really close friend.
Will work harder than everybody else if they think it’s going to get them respected
Sacrifice themselves or their well-being for the good of others
The most prone to chocking under pressure
In a way, solitary life, focusing solely on body recomposition right now
Highest level of anxiety
Anxiety, no. I can however produce a lot of stress hormones, even without needing to. I can get a stress response sitting out in the sun, during a vacation, while doing nothing. My body will just pump stress hormones without fail for an hour, it will pass, and life is back to normal. Might be remnant of burning out.
Function better when following a routine
I like planning and optimizing. If I don’t have a routine, I’ll fall out of it. For instance, I can be ruthlessly consistent with working out every day but if I had just 3 workouts a week I’d start missing workouts
Don’t deal well with unexpected changes of plan
I do because I am quite pragmatic about making changes on the fly
Hate taking risks, play it safe
Prefer repetitiveness over novelty and variation
Great observers and « information gatherers »
Intellectualize their decision making
I do this retrospectively. I probably don’t intellectualize as much while making my decision but when it comes to justifying a decision afterwards I do so intellectually
Don’t talk much
I talk a lot
Are secretive about themselves
Yes, I generally avoid social media etcetera to retain privacy and sanity of mind (I get very caught up in checking notifications)
Think a lot
Way too much I’d argue
Don’t like « thrills »
I like some thrills.
Less inclined to create social connections
I create social connections with strangers on at least a bi-weekly basis
Extreme focus and concentration
Sometimes, less and less as I age. Post-burnout, very rarely.
Incredibly patient. Used to teach at the university, and was known for my patience.