EDITED: People seem to misunderstand my point. So I'm restating slightly.
Even if there are many intelligent contributors to this forum there is still one area where I feel many are somewhat delusional. I'm not attacking anyone but why, oh why is it that some people feel that:
Muscle is ALWAYS better
Examples of things people will say:
1) Don't worry, you'll meet plenty of other women. This one was given opportunity to meet an interesting very muscular man and she blew it.
2) All skinny guys are losers.
3) Man X is a better man because he trains hard and is disciplined.
Remarks to the above
1) Yes, this is/was a body-building forum so clearly we discuss physiques in that frame of mind, bigger and leaner is better. Why though do we feel the need to quantify the loss of this girl through reference to muscle? Surely it would be better just to say: "You're a damned nice, smart and cool guy" or "You're in great shape".
The point is: the initial statement infers that the greater the muscularity the greater the loss.
2)Skinny guys do not all suck. I consider myself the same guy as I was before I trained and got big. My ability to "get big" was in the most primordial sense linked to my character (which existed way before my near 500lbs squat did).
3)Yes he's disciplined and his hard work over the years will pay off. That is admirable but why is he a better person to Mr B? Mr B might be skinny but Mr B may run 3 charities. He may not have ever gotten into lifting and might think it is silly (everyone does really before getting into it) but his commitment and discipline towards helping [insert good cause here] may well be greater?
I'm not saying that everyone here thinks that a disciplined trainer is better than everyone, nor that everyone would agree with 1) or 2). I don't do absolutes.
More, as Vegita said:
Most of the problems come from PEOPLE who view their goals as superior to other peoples goals.