My opinion is that guys, to a certain extent, should focus more on trying to look better, in ways above and beyond working out IF THEIR GOAL IS TO GET LAID MORE OR TO LAY BETTER-LOOKING WOMEN. Of course, being in shape is an imp’t (but not necessary) part of the equation for many of us.
Why am I saying this? Well, think about all the ways that women try to look hotter. The moment a WOMAN steps out of the house, she is surrounded with sexual options. That abundance of options comes from the fact that she is making herself attractive 24/7. That’s right. From putting on makeup, to working out, to shopping for nice clothes, a Hard Body is looking good 24/7.
We all know that most reasonably attractive women will get attention from men because we’re such horny dogs.
BUT- look at HBs, who are already hot, who spend excessive time and energy to make themselves even hotter. We want them even more, right?
How many guys even do the bare minimum to groom or take care of their own
Everything an HB does, from the time she’s a little girl, is geared towards
attracting guys and drawing attention from * every * guy she comes in contact with.
Contrast the typical HB with the typical guy who is trying to get laid. How many guys seek attention from * every * girl they come into contact with?
How many guys are really doing all they can to have more sexual abundance by trying to attract 24/7? Not that men SHOULD do everything they can, but they can DEFINITELY improve.
Does this mean being a “metrosexual”? I don’t know. Does it?
I think there is a minimum that a guy can do to increase his attractiveness. A good haircut for one. Well groomed facial hair and nails-not necessarily manicured, but well-groomed. Nice, well-fitting clothes obviously, preferably from a high-quality brand. Clothes that are more expensive last longer, and look good thruout most of their life, whereas clothes from crappy, less expensive brands wear out, lose their color, or rip quicker. They also don’t fit as well-usually.
As an example, I used to buy a lot of Old Navy but everything I bought soon turned to crap. I was lucky to get 1 season out of their clothing. Now I buy their jeans and that’s about it. The reason I still buy their jeans is because a) I don’t fit into designer jeans (like a lot of people on the board I suspect) and b) I refuse to pay $150 for Diesel jeans when Old navy copies their style and a few months later I can get similar-looking trendy jeans for $30-$40. I MIGHT spend $60 on a pair of DKNY or Calvin Kleins, if I find a pair that fits me.
Do you agree or disagree?
Now, re: Queer Eye, I do think the show has some good aspects to it, but you have to look for them. Many of the guys aren’t really that good-looking to begin with and have no clue on how to dress, groom etc. Its amazing what can be done in a day when these guys are “made over” by people who know what they’re doing.
But there are a lot of negative aspects
to the show that you have to watch out for.
Number one is not letting your estrogen levels rise!
But I don’t think that’s a problem on the Testosterone forums. Plus, there’s always M to fall back on.
Seriously, the big negative, and I mean BIG, is money. It is really expensive to buy an entire new wardrobe, much less one comprised mainly of designer clothing. Most people CANNOT afford to spend 1/3 of what it would cost to do it all at once.
They would have to build that wardrobe a little at a time, and spend a lot of time in discount stores that sell designer clothes, and if you don’t live in a large city, you can’t find those stores.
Also, and much more expensive, is the furniture. I strongly feel that high-quality furniture is extremely important, because great furniture can last for centuries.
We all know what its like to buy a piece of shit table, bed, chair, appliance, etc and 6 months later it falls apart. That is just throwing money out the window.
But again, few can afford to make over a house/apt with high quality furniture and decorations all at once.
So it leads to a materialistic lifestyle if it is followed to the letter. That’s my main point.
So you have to take the good, which is take better care of yourself and try to buy nice funishings, but don’t get sucked into a too-superficial and too-materialistic lifestyle.