Late response, long work days. I’m going to reply without reading anyone else’s post for the sake of objective accountability, so i apologize for parroting anything else already said.
Personally, what I seek in a woman is far more associated with traits than interests.
I prefer them to be strong and able to stick up for themselves against others (and me). I have very few reasons for this, i just dont like the idea of a “pet” girlfriend. I also dont like the idea of another human being solely dependent on me, or vice versa.
I like them to be cold and calculated during most decisions. Under most circumstances, as long as there is mutual repect, will always lead to constructive debates, and never an emotional argument.
I prefer a true partner. My fiance turned 18, moved in with me and my father, and within weeks we were in an apartment. It took years of roommates, shitty paychecks, and smart mutual financial decisions to get what we have. Yes I love her, but we both know when it’s time to go nuts to butts and treat our longevity with business sense. We wouldn’t have made it if it was solely emotionally driven young love. We both wanted something more and knew we could help eachother.
I need someone who knows boundaries and space. I’m honestly a man of few words in person. I dont always want to talk, I dont always want to be isolated to a room with one person. I want me time, and I dont want to feel bad for desiring that.
These are probably the most important, that I’ve only learned through young failed relationships. Not that the exes are wrong, they just didnt desire the same things.
Yes there needs to be common interest, but I think it’s much more important to know how to discuss unlike things with care and compassion, than dating a clone of yourself. And it’s important for them to be truly proud of what you do, while not necessarily caring about it themselves.
Basically, I seek someone that can accept I’m not emotionally driven in any aspect of my life, while still understanding that I greatly care for them. They need to know space. And they need to know that they’re free to live their life however they see fit. Just because I trust them 100% doesnt mean I dont care. I just desire to see them live their best life, and not wait for my “approval”.
*edit: liking cats is non-negotiable.