Before I go into this, my initial and probably remaining, decision for the best interest of the kid, is to keep my mouth shut. Be curious if you agree.
I have little crappy houses all over the oilfield, in little dusty towns. Generally, I let my senior people use them so they don't have to stay in crappy hotels. The oilfield has contracted and is back to mainly drilling horizontals in the Permian Basin, and so I found myself back at one of my own crappy houses for a stretch, about 4 hours from my home.
I used to stay there a fair amount 10 years ago. Got to know a very attractive neighbor lady who was separated from her husband. Little waif of a girl, maybe 5'6". Anglo. As these things go, we had a great FWB situation going and had a lot of fun. Mutually bored and horny. Left on great terms, but then she eventually got back together with husband and moved away.
Saw her at WalMart with her daughter. Age 10ish. Probably 5'10", dark skin and blue eyes. (My biological father had blue eyes -- I have brown.) Looked remarkably like me. Looked like my mom, in fact, with blue eyes.
Very surprised, in that I was told that I was shooting blanks at the time (and actually had surgery to fix it).
After a bit, I asked "Is she . . . " to which she hissed at me "Yes, but don't screw things up," and rapidly made her good-byes.
I was raised by a step-father, who is my father for all intents and purposes. You change the diapers, you're the parent, IMHO. I am a soon-to-be adoptive father of my brother's kids (and have custody), because he and his wife were complete losers in many ways. So I really respect the adoptive father thing.
My inclination is to keep my mouth shut (my wife agrees, is mildly disgusted, but my past is known to her). I think that would be the best for the kid.
I had my lawyer do a little work and the husband is listed as the father on the birth certificate. His name is Anglo and he marked "W, Not Hispanic" of the form, so I presume he is white.
No problems with paying child support if it came to that, but I really would not want to interfere with the presumed dad.
Is this the correct move?