I got dumped a week ago, which sucked a bit, but I didn’t see her as a long term potential, so I would have dumped her in a short time anyways.
Today, I found out she cheated on me, which of course made me furious, and got me on my present train of thought.
Now, I don’t really need help on the dumped/cheating front, I’ve been around enough to know all the coping stuff. I’m more concerned with making positive changes in my personality/life (if necessary), that she was so ‘kind’ to tell me about.
Reading this site, and life in general has taught me a lot about making changes, but I’ve found behavioural traits are a hard thing to break, as you often don’t know you’re doing them. At the very least. changing them requires dedication and proper motivation.
The main thing I’m wondering is that while the anger from being cheated on is fueling the desire to change now, what is the best way to keep myself committed to these changes once the anger inevitably fades?
Secondly, what are some tricks, in the abscence of someone to point these things out to me, of realizing when I am falling into habit?
Thanks for any help you might have