Here’s the thing. A chick knows if she wants to fuck you in pretty short order. Holding out longer is an illusion to make other people see her differently. We all know how people think. If she knows she isn’t going to have a year and a day she might want to hurry things along.
I met a girl when I was home on leave. I fell in lust with her in about two nanoseconds. We got to know each other better, went on a 4 day hike. Note: You get to know people pretty well when there is no movie, dinner out, or radio to get in the way. I fell in love with her in short order and this was BEFORE we had sex. I’d had plenty of sex prior so it wasn’t just being horny.
Fast forward 23 years. Our daughter will be applying to med school this year and our son is going in the Navy in May. We’re still happily married with a lot less problems than almost anyone we know. We’ve been through a lot of things together, hikes from hell, pack horse wrecks, me getting my nose nearly removed by a mule’s (ironicaly he died today ) hoof, sick and injured kids, deaths of family and friends, and more. I’d couldn’t think of a person I’ve met in my life that I’d rather have with me when the shit hits the fan or things turn out perfect.
So I don’t think weeding out the girls that are obviously greatly sexually attracted to you (nobody said they were easy for anyone else) is just one more opportunity lost. Who knows, she might know you’re “the one” first and she’s got the ovaries to act on it.
Long term relationships. Been there, done that. If there is an end in sight and you really are meant to be together it can be done. It’s not easy. Maintaining frequent contact is a good thing. We used this stuff called paper and pen, you might have seen them in the museum, but E-mail, text messaging, and those cheap cell phone minutes are even better.