That really sucks for those guys.
Lil Story: My girlfriend’s parents got divorced when she was 18. The marriage was already on its way out, story has it that they both knew it, but didn’t want to tell anyone because of the kids. (She has younger siblings who at the time were around 14 and 10.) Anyways, so they both knew that the divorce was inevitable, gf’s father ended up having a fling with one of his coworkers(I’m almost pos it wasn’t the first time) however when gf’s mother found out about this one, she used it to the most of her advantage.
At this point enter in all of the stories about all the weird fucked up shit that happens when people are getting/going through divorce, and hate each other…Racking up thousands $'s of debt on credit cards with no desire to pay them off, taking out huge loans with no desire to pay them off, calling the police for theft of property that was never stolen, using the kids against the other parent, ect…And that’s just the shit her mother did…lol
All that aside gf’s mother, like I said, used every fucking thing she could to get as much money out of him as possible. All the while keeping as much shit as his as possible.
By the time their divorce was finalized, He was responsible for paying a set alimony for x amount of years(i think it was 7) child support until the youngest turned 18 (7 yrs), responsible for all health insurance in the family, responsible for all the kids college tuition, had to move out of the house but had to keep his name on the mortgage, court ordered that the house did not have to go up for sale until the youngest child turned 18, annnnnnnnnnnnnnnd she was allowed to continue to be a stay at home mom. I think in the beginning with alimony and cs together he was paying like 65-75k a year.
One of the worst parts was that go’s mother had no fucking clue how to pay bills or balance a check book. All she knew was being a stay at home mother, going to fucking tea times and spending her husbands money with the other stay at home moms. Over the 7-8 year period the house was put up for foreclosure on 3 separate occasions(2 times he ended up bailing her out(because of the kids), and the 3rd him and her sister ended up bailing her out.
She filled for bankruptcy once, early too…I want to say like year 3. He had to take her to court and she was forced to get a job. When he got remarried, he had to go to court to get her off of his health insurance. She constantly borrowed money from my gf, and on top of all that she managed to piss away an inheritance of over 35k from her mother.
1 year before the youngest turned 18 she was forced to sell the house…she just owed to much money and the bank wouldn’t have any of it anymore. So she sells the house and gets half of what the didn’t owe. Goes and rents an apartment with her 2 kids, and some fucking how manages (in a year mind you) to piss away the money she got from selling the house AND the rest of his alimony/cs, and whatever money she earned by working. By the time the lease was up in the apt she was completely broke.
I couldn’t make this stuff up if I tried. And that’s just a quick summary, I didn’t even get into the nitty gritty of this mass amount of BS. One time, early in the divorce when my gf was living with her while working and going to school. She forced my gf to give her (I was told it was 1k but I always had an inkling that it was more) so that she could “pay the mortgage” because “If you didn’t live here I’d have the money”.
I remember one time I heard her bragging at a family party about how she was gonna ride the gravy train all the way. Lol she definitely did, but unfortunately for her there wasn’t another one to jump onto. Now she’s walking in the desert with her thumb out hoping to hitch a ride.