I don’t have children, but I know it entails a lot of time, effort, money and compassion. Why, then, is such an important aspect of life treated so lightly by some? Obviously, needing a license to raise a child is a bit extreme, but when you see questionable headlines in the news on a daily basis it makes you wonder.
My cousin confided in me that she and her hubby were having financial trouble with the new baby and weren’t sure what to do. I told her to hang in there and offered to help where I could. Two months later she calls with the news she’s pregnant. How did this solve $$$ trouble #1?
Some people just don’t think-they have sex and boink, there’s a baby. You may think I’m a control freak, but if you plan for your retirement, why not a child? After talking with a number of people, I’ve found that a lot of people just don’t approach having children in that way, they just “happen”. This is a very slippery slope with financial and emotional implications.
I won’t comment on religion and it’s role in child bearing. However, if a family is struggling, then perhaps they should get their lives in order before subjecting an innocent child to a life of poverty. I understand that accidents can happen and that people must make adjustments. However, when you have your own soccer team and still can’t feed and clothe them properly, you have a problem.
Children need more than the basics. They should be given the opportunity to pursue sports, arts, boy/girl scouts-anything that will help create a solid foundation. I think it’s selfish when people “just do it”. They don’t have a plan and the children suffer.
Everyday there is another horrific story in the headlines:
-200 lb toddler
-12 yr old murderer
-14 yr old pregnant child
-8 yr old overdoses on drugs
These headlines could be decreased if people became responsible. For those that want children, I’m sure they bring them joy. However, there are plenty of children born to homes where the parents didn’t plan for it and have no intention of providing for them. Our cities are filled with children in “the system” who have been cast aside much like an old pair of jeans.
It’s unfair that there are so many children that fit this mold.
My mother was a cop and worked the graveyard shift so my brother and I had an adult to supervise us when we came home from school. My mother wasn’t rolling in dough and it wasn’t easy, but she made the effort because it was important for her that we have HER in our lives.
Despite our parents working full-time, they still did the boy/girl scout thing, piano and art lessons, etc. We weren’t rich, but our parents worked OT to make sure we had a chance to try different things.
I worked in the inner city as a teacher early in my career and saw a lot of messed up kids: born addicted to crack, abandoned, gang activity, etc.
If people simply think first and try to help their kids, then there would be less trouble for them.
Failing to plan is planning to fail.