tuesday, August 4, 2015
Fireworks today! No, I am Canadian and I realize it is a month off anyway.
I actually got in a dust up this morning while walking to grocery shopping. It was barely much of one, I didn’t resolve to do much.
Here goes: I was walking along the street, and up ahead walking slower was a couple walking their dog on a leash. They stopped to let the dog sniff at something more to the left and I walked around to the right, having to go onto grass of the concrete to do so. I was gaining on getting ahead and wanted to make it back on to the sidewalk when the dog came forward on a leash that was getting longer and cut off my real estate.
I was a bit ticked off and said, “mind your mutt”. There was no immediate reaction and so I made a kicking gesture towards the dog, but did not contact.
The man and lady walking the dog freaked out on me and I knew, ‘holy shit, now I did it’, type of thing. they yelled that I had no business kicking their dog (I had only gestured a kick), and the male came at me. He is about my size and decked me with a shot to the forehead. I knew the first rule of reality martial arts is never be on the ground, so I sprang up. He postured and yelled some more before walking along.
I stood there and a few moments later started walking in the same direction, I had resolved not to let my shopping trip get put off. A nearby person asked what happened, I gave a quick recap, and she said she would call the police. I said I wasn’t asking her to.
these people I noticed a moment later were carrying the dog and jaywalked and then showed up at an address nearby. I kept walking thinking, ‘should I pick more with him?’, but never actually did.
So I shopped. As to damage, I now have slightly sore, slightly swollen thing on my forehead, a few tiny scrapes on my elbow and hand, and I wonder if the left side of my back is a bit off.
Overall analysis from me is that I did not jump up and down and scream for mommy, that is a plus.
Also a plus, I already mentioned I immediately regained my feet when decked.
But, the cons: I got decked without attempting to block or slip.
Also con, I had the appearance of being completely Pwn3d. I got into something that I suddenly realized I wasn’t willing to take the McArthur doctrine with. I have sparred in the last 6 weeks several times, but somehow I didn’t bring myself to just DO. I at the time suddenly concluded that it is reality martial arts and there could be complications of various sorts, not just at the then and there, and my stiff upper lip wasn’t there.
As to training, I had wanted to get back in the gym these last couple of weeks, it just didn’t happen. I thought yesterday to book a one on one lesson at the place, in order to assess where I am after a few months of training and some sparring, and to assign homework with my equipment here until I can be in a rejoining position, not that soon.
So, bless me for…actually not crying for mommy? [/quote]
You are mistaken. The first rule of reality martial arts is the to avoid this type of shit. This is most effectively accomplished by practicing god situational awareness, checking your ego and observing the rule of the “3 stupids” (as per our friend Robert A).
To paraphrase: If you, 1.)go to stupid places, 2.)be around stupid people and/or 3.)do stupid things you will win stupid prizes. You were in clear contravention of number 3), and as such you won a stupid prize (i.e. getting laid out).
Kicking at someone’s dog (“gesture” or not) is pretty much on par with calling someone’s female companion a bitch or equivalent. Even if it’s accurate/justified (in your mind), it’s an extremely bad idea. Even “mind your mutt” was a pretty poor strategy, really. A firm but courteous “excuse me please” would have been better advised as a jumping off point.
That should be the biggest “con” in your after action analysis. Check your ego and don’t start shit for no reason. You stand to gain absolutely nothing and could potentially lose everything.[/quote]
Threatening to kick someone’s dog (who many people consider to be part of their family and even equal to a child in some cases) is seriously out of line. There are not many things that will draw a violent response from me (you can call me any name in the book, question my “manhood”, or attempt pretty much any method of attacking my ego and I’m just going to walk away), but hurting or threatening to hurt my family is one of those few things that can. And like Irish, Batman, and London have already said, you are lucky that the person you pissed off wasn’t more capable of hurting you.
You seem to be chronically fatigued lately (from your recent posts), which may have contributed to your bad mood and subsequent over reaction to this incident. You also seem somewhat frustrated and maybe a little discouraged. I would drop the resistance training for a little while, try to get some more sleep, maybe up your protein or food intake slightly (if you aren’t eating well already), and definitely spend some time contemplating your moral compass (when and why you would actually use violence and when it’s best to just let things slide). Hopefully if you can let your body recover it will also improve your mood/irritability.[/quote]
Was checking in this morning and came across this little gem, cannot add anything to the excellent advise already given, but, good God , Sir, attacks against family, kids, and pets will get you killed quicker than a cat can lick its ass. No shit story: arrived on a location with the Afghan ANP, guy lying on the ground bled out from a massive throat slash. Seems like he hit another man’s goat with a stick, guy took offense, killed him. ANP said “ok” and we left. Think before you act.