This is definitely off-topic. Every time me and my father try and talk or get together we end up arguing. He has never supported anything I do. After my first and only bodybuilding show that I placed second in I came home with my trophy and he said “I could have one of those too, they cost 50 cents on the street corner”. Now I’m not too confrontational so I just let most of that shit slide. But last night I think I had it.
We started arguing over gun laws. I said that I believed that you are able to cary a pistol in an over the shoulder holster, with a permit of course. (In CT) He began saying no and that I don’t know anything and he took the course blah blah blah. I am about to take the course but I said that doesn’t mean I can’t read the gun laws and I believe but am not sure that a shoulder holster is okay. He then got pissed as I continued and said “forget it, stop talking” so trying to avoid another fight I did. I was silent then he started with me again and I said “Forget it, I don’t wanat to know so end it” Well that pissed him off to no end. Then I got this
“Listen here, we’re gonna start playing the roles I’m the fucking father and your the son. I say forget you don’t fucking say shit. Who the fuck are you to say that. …”
Well I just started breathing in through the nose and out the mouth. I was pretty angry. Up until know my father has been a hero of sorts to me even though we couldn't get along. But last night seemed to push me over the edge. I've never had a violent feeling towards my Dad but last night I wanted to kick his ass so bad! I have always been afraid of my dad, not a small man. But last night I was afraid to say anything else to him, part of the reason is b/c he is my dad the other part b/c I was afraid I may end up hurting him. I'm not to small either and have been traing in martial arts for a little while.
I guess what I’m getting at is how far do you let your father go? I mean I don’t ever think I would hit him but even just to stand up and say Fuck You or something a little more thought out. Anyone have similiar issues? Sad part is all I ever wanted is to be pals somewhat, talk about my training, work outside whatever. I don’t want to sob on each others shoulder but a couple of things to do together wouldn’t have been so bad.