[quote]Hadow Khan wrote:
Somebody is gonna paste a fail pic. I just know it.
I’ll post this anyway…
Does anybody ever feel like jealousy is fucking with their life?
I didn’t grow up with a whole lot. I had the basics (food, shelter, clothing), but my parents have basically made me pay for everything else (Car, Car insurance, College).
It is sort of fucking with me that there are a ton of people (The closest to me being my GF) who have had a lot of stuff just handed to them. She has her apartment, college, car, insurance, food, pretty much everything paid for by her parents.
I love her to death, but its causing some strain (It really is my problem, not hers. I don’t “blame” her for it) on everything.
She’s probably the reason I’m writing this, but I’m jealous of other people too. Maybe I should go see a shrink.
I would say the same thing but from an opposite standpoint.
My family paid for college, bought my cars, paid for everything. I have trust funds and stipends up my ass.
My husband from a kid was required to pay for everything he wanted, unless it came from Goodwill, including college, vehicles, clothes, sometimes even food, even as a kid.
Now, after six years of marriage, we both still have personal struggles in this area. I still have a difficult time really going after things which I want, but which come with difficulty, because I’ve had a lot handed to me. This doesn’t really work in the real world. He is a hard worker, but he has a hard time accepting things which come easily or are “handed out.” This also can jeopardize relationships, because altruism certainly is a very real factor in relationships.
Maturity in this context, as I’ve learned, is being able to respond responsibly within your own personal circumstance even when you compare them to other persons’ lives. I’m still learning this. And I do wish sometimes that I had the upbringing of some of my friends who had nothing and had to make it on their own, because I see the strengths in character which they have and I lack.
And in this context, yeah, the grass is always greener. I wish I had the discipline my hubby has learned. And he wishes he had the freedom I’ve had.
I hope this helps. I realize I’m sort of rambling about our realtionship, but it’s still true.