I'm not sure about this so I'd figure I'd put it out there for some different opinions.
My buddy is getting married in May. This dude in particular is my best friend and has been for as long as I've been alive. Shit, our parents shared an apartment when I was born. We're more like brothers in fact and I'm also really close with his fiance. They've been together for 7 years now and we were all friends for a while before they got together.
So, it always went without saying that when they got married (we all knew it was coming) that I was going to be the best man. It was made official when he asked me to do just that, several years ago. They pushed the wedding back due to various reasons, including their daughter being born and last year they started seriously planning for this May.
Again, the wedding party was set in stone...I'm still the best man. We're only two weeks away from getting fitted for tux's and finalizing everything.
Well, on Saturday at my buddy's birthday party (I wasn't there; I had plans that night and his girl didn't let me know until the day before) he got wasted and gave my spot away!!!!! Like, seriously!? He made a joke with his grandfather that he was going to make him the best man and his grandfather took it seriously and got choked up/super happy. My boy told me about it that night and I'm like, "yeah, ok". Then he calls me on Monday and goes "Yo..about the wedding...I had to switch shit up. I made my grandfather the best man."
Of course, I didn't act like a bitch about it. I told him it was cool and it didn't bother me at all. But, the more I got to thinking about it the more it pisses me off. Do I have a right to be mad or affected by this bullshit? That's what it is, bullshit. You don't switch that kind of thing less than 3 months away from the damn wedding.
So, where this leaves me is being 2nd in line of a three man party. This also cuts one of our other good friends out so I'm thinking about backing out of the wedding all together. I mean, my spot was taken, not his.