[quote]Robert A wrote:
idaho is one of the knowledgable people I mentioned previously. LondonBoxer is another.
My questions? Well, I’m already pro, and had your normal life changing shit all take place (like marriage, new demanding job, 2nd pt trainer/coach job) in the same year, causing HUGE lifestyle adjustments, shocks, temper tantrums…etc. Again, was anyone here? Answer: yes. And second, (he grabs the tissue and lotion), how do you homos deal with your random, life altering shit? Answer:…? Use the lotion?[/quote]
Is there a certain way I am supposed to be taking the tissue and lotion comments?
If “how do you homos deal with your random, life altering shit?” should be taken as how do you prioritize/manage training with other obligations/stresses it really does boil down to what idaho said.
I would state that the first thing to be is honest. The truth is easier to remember, and there is nothing gained by lying to yourself. So, figuring out what your real priorities are is important, and no one here is going to yell at you for not being “WARRIAR” enough if providing for a family is suddenly more important than learning a new heel hook entry.
If a “demanding job” is listed should I assume that while you are and have been a pro-fighter that fighting is not what puts food on your table? If so, is excelling at your job a higher financial/family obligation than fighting? One of my rules(doesn’t have to be one of yours, I use it to keep myself sane, er…kind of.) is that in the professional world GIVE A DAMN flows the same direction as money. So the boss/customer that pays gets to have the problems that matter. If your job is now in that category than you may have to make changes to your priority list.
If you are recently married, how high is happiness/providing on the priority list now? What is it going to take to be the husband you want to be? Did fighting just get bumped again? This is not likely to be a board where saying “family comes first” is met with anything but congratulations…
Finally, you have trainer/coach job. How serious do you take your obligations as a teacher? How much do you think you owe the person looking to you for guidance? This is a real come to Jesus question “Would you rather win your next 3 fights, or have all your guys win theirs?” The answer will tell you if you are a coach/trainer who has experience as a pro-fighter or a pro-fighter who earns a little extra training. Of course if we may have just bumped fighting down another slot compared to where it was 2 years ago.
Now the thing here is…the only “wrong” answers are answers where you are dishonest with yourself. If fighting is still the most important thing in your life, that may create some serious problems with people who took vows, or pay you to do a job, but if it is the truth than how you order your life should reflect it. However, if you know that it isn’t anymore THAN there is no need for “shocks, temper tantrums, ect…” because you are still doing what is most important to you. And it doesn’t take a whole lot to get excited about the things you actually value most. We can do those with a full heart.
I am going to link to a thread started by one of the other knowledgable, intelligent, and helpfull posters, MissParker regarding fatigue, training, and working a potentially life and death job.
Part of my reply to her was
If you read the short thread you will note I am mostly Archer jokes. Like I said, I think the actual good posters just keep me around because I am occasionally funny.
Disclosure Statement: I am not, nor have I ever been a professional fighter or trainer of such. Also, I don’t think my name and professional co-habitate the same sentence very often. I am often accused of being effective, knowledgeable, hell some mis-guided folks have said expert…but never professional.
This is spot on.