So last night I went out with this girl I’ve been messaging for just over a week. She asked me out, and suggested going to the cinema to watch Gone Girl. She was out at the time, so asked me to find a cinema and film times. I ended up booking the tickets so that we didn’t miss out on good seats, and I went a step further and reserved seats at a pizza restaurant (nothing too formal, but a nice place) as I also new she loved pizza. She seemed really pleased.
Everything went well - good conversation, good film, nice pizza, eye contact, blah, blah, blah… until we got back to her flat. She seemed really tired, and there was no way I was going to be persistent and potentially drive her away, but when we got to the door, I had a mental block. There was a short silence, she said that she was tired, and instead of coming straight out with what was in my head, the first thing that came out was “okay”, like I had subliminally asked permission to come in (not my intention btw), and been refused.
I thought to myself, “why the fuck did you just say that?”, and sensed a little confusion in her voice, as she repeated what I said. I quickly moved onto saying what I had originally intended, “I really enjoyed tonight. We should go out again sometime. Perhaps I’ll message you later in the week”. Something like that anyway, followed by a hug and kiss on the cheek, before she went inside.
She hasn’t directly hinted that she is in some way annoyed, but a response to an unrelated message this morning was a little short. I saw her in the gym today as well (unintentional). We did talk a bit, but the spark wasn’t there. Not quite sure what I was expecting though, after all, people are there to work out. However, she did come over and say bye before she left, holding my arm as she walked away, so that seemed positive.
I’ve been out of the game for a while, so I’m probably over-analysing, hence the long post, but I would like to keep things going.
The temptation is to ask her if I did upset her in some way, but on the other hand, I don’t want to bring it up if she has forgotten, or if it didn’t bother her. I’m just hoping it wasn’t enough to spoil the entire evening, as I don’t want to come across as “just another guy with his eyes on the prize”, if you know what I mean. That isn’t me.
If anyone has seen Gone Girl, you’ll understand why I don’t want to piss her off!
tl;dr - If you thought you’d annoyed a girl you went out with, and wanted a remedy, would you ask her, or let it go and hope for the best?