yeh lol, but nah it just seems like any time i rely on someone else unless its my mum, they fall through or their only interested in helping if its going to give them instant benefit, i dont know if its the people i hang around with or if its life…all i know is like shaft i come through 10 times out of 10, im not a door mat but i do try and help others out
an example - a mate who was apparently interested in lifting was a member of another gym then joined my gym, at first he’d rock up and be real interested, but then his motivation plummeted it seemed, and all he’d do is a couple sets of bench and lat pull down then be gone, now this didnt really bother me cus id put my earphones on and do what i needed to do if i needed a spot atleast he wouldnt be doing too much and be there to help. this guy when he broke up with his girlfriend, i was the first one too take him to the pub keep him entertained and try and listen when he’d be depressed about his ex, one time i even had to go pick him up from a schools formal after party at 3am because he’d been kicked out and was throwing up in the gutter, a person i was seeing at the time called me, so i came and got him then proceeded had to deal with someone who was drunk and crying about his ex girlfriend…anyways then after all that he got back with his ex, and there still togethor…he didnt even tell me anything about it his little sister did…then months went by he started bailing on going out backflipping on plans he’d made, it happened occasionally not enough too be a constant thing though…then the past two months he’s continually flaked on gym saying he’ll go but never rocking up, no call or message saying things have changed…ok a msg just saying he cant make it would be alright cus hey things happen in life, the thing that annoyed me was that he’d organize it then never rock up, ok a solution to this problem was to get a new gym partner who has the same goals and mentality when i hit the weights.
then it started happening when we’d go out(i usually go out with a 3-5 other guys so its not like i was by myself), then too top it off, he’ll say lets go to a certain club but then id be expected to organize everything like how were getting there and such, also occasionally when im not up for drinking ill take a turn driving a few others have done this aswell, he hasnt…ok so your thinking maybe by now im just a door mat, i dont view it like that…i have distanced myself from this ‘mate’ another example is me and my three neighbours went to a party which he was at with his little sister, anyways long story short he picked a fight with a kid who ended up confronting him with about 15 other guys, and cause we were affiliated with him and with him when they approached him they started harassing us, he ran off while me and my neighbours were 3 against 15…luckily we got out of the situation without too much violence, then the next day he ignored the fact anything happened, he’s one of those guys who will run his mouth but when someone stands up to him he’ll run off, he talks alot of shit and never really backs it up at all…on a side note he’s also one of those people who go a person who weighs 50kg and benching is the same as a 100kg person benching 120kg, thinking that the 120 feels the same for a 100 as 70 to 50kg person also a person who always hears about stuff but is never there
however another way shorter example
on the weekend went out with some people i havent seen in awhile great times until about 1230 when especially one of my best got trashed and started making a complete ass out of himself, generally when he is sober he would pretty much constitute a t-man, however anytime alcohol is involved he continues to make a complete ass out of himself, and it doesnt make me want to go clubbing with an otherwise good bloke who doesnt bail, and steps up to the plate most times when needed
–these kind of things make me think id be better off just being a lone wolf, not fucking with other people…i’ ve got a couple of examples but i believe ive written more than most people will read