[quote]Professor X wrote:
sasquatch wrote:
I travel and deal with people everyday. I know they know I’m bigger than them, but intimidated–just to be around someone bigger–please. I know it happens, but that is more the exception than the rule. If you present yourself in a non-intimidating fashion, why would it ever be a serious condition/problem.
It’s not hard for me to understand at all. I accept my size and I make no special, out-of-the-way effort to de-intimidate myself.
Maybe you, like the poster, just want to feel you intimidate those around you. I’ve probably been intimidated more by guys smaller than me than I have bigger guys. It’s always that lunatic, funky eyed, sneering dude who makes me keep an eye on him than the bigger guy at the end of the bar or cash register.
You are also 6’4". That is 5" taller than me and people do make allowances for height as far as how they deal with people. I am about 10lbs less than you so that is a rather large difference in appearance. To make it compareable at about 10lbs per inch in height, that is like you weighing about 310lbs. You don’t think people would treat you slightly different at that weight? I don’t present myself in an intimidating fashion. What does that even entail?[/quote]
So now it’s relative size. First of all the poster was 5’11"–220. I believe I answered his ?question? fairly. It wasn’t his size, it had more to do with his vibe/attitude. I think that’s probably spot on with most people who feel they intimidate.
And your response to me as to why I don’t feel I intimidate people is that–compared to you (interestingly)–I’m ‘really not that big.’ Why must you have an answer for everything? It is how you present yourself, not how much weight you move. It really is that simple.
Again, I’m sure my (our) sizes can be intimidating to some. And like you say, this may have even been helpful many times, probably without us even knowing. But I think overall, it’s not an issue. But then again, it’s not my goal in life to intimidate, so it’s not something I wonder or look for, to see if it’s happening.