couples should just have normal straight forward conversations that are open and honest, would take out the large percentage of conflict and confusion that comes from trying to read each other. Not sure what else could be said… We could always speculate and think what certain things could mean but that’s all just projections… there is no way to know what is going on for sure until a person asks and gets an honest answer.
[quote]csulli wrote:
Keep the gun and leave him. I woulda gotten you a ring and a Friesian.[/quote]
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Normally my brain doesn’t let itself get caught up in these types of conversations, but it literally almost shut down at the onset of reading that. I appreciate that it’s not at all serious, but still.
[quote]csulli wrote:
Keep the gun and leave him. I woulda gotten you a ring and a Friesian.[/quote]
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Hey I know it’s wrong orion. I just can’t help myself.
You remember the parable about the frog and the scorpion don’t you?
How about a big round of applause for our friend Beth, the only poster who’s posted about a relationship issue with even the least bit of rationality.[/quote]
How about a big round of applause for our friend Beth, the only poster who’s posted about a relationship issue with even the least bit of rationality.[/quote]
And got something out of it that’s not an STD.[/quote]
LOL
[quote]csulli wrote:
Keep the gun and leave him. I woulda gotten you a ring and a Friesian.[/quote]
You still can. Wtf are you waiting for?
P.S. I already left and tried to give it back. He won’t take it and is acting offended.
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please share the parable of the frog and scorpion. [/quote]
There are a few versions. Something like this:
A stream starts to flood after a rain and a scorpion finds himself stranded on a bit of land surrounded by water. He sees a frog and asks the frog to save him by carrying him to shore on his back.
“How do I know you won’t sting me?” the frog asks.
“If I sting you while you’re carrying me across, I will surely drown.” is the scorpion’s reply.
Satisfied with this logic, the frog sets out with the scorpion on his back, but midstream the scorpion stings him. Feeling the paralysis setting in the frog has time to ask “Why would you do this? Now we will both die.”
The scorpion says “I can’t help it… I’m a scorpion.”
I understand the idea that people do what is in their nature (the stinging scorpion), but why to their own detriment?
I guess my experience has been that those are aware enough to know their true nature, either use that information to better themselves or to take advantage of others. In either case, either the scorpion or the frog and the scorpion live. It takes a special kind of fuck-uped-ness to know yourself and commit yourself to a watery grave.
[quote]Dr. Pangloss wrote:
I never understood that parable.
I understand the idea that people do what is in their nature (the stinging scorpion), but why to their own detriment?
I guess my experience has been that those are aware enough to know their true nature, either use that information to better themselves or to take advantage of others. In either case, either the scorpion or the frog and the scorpion live. It takes a special kind of fuck-uped-ness to know yourself and commit yourself to a watery grave.[/quote]
But we act on our nature to our detriment all the damn time. It doesn’t make sense but it’s absolutely the norm.