maybe this is more of a girl than a guy thing, or maybe not...
someone once expressed despondency about their squat.
i said 'well, if it is any consolation you squat a hell of a lot more than me'.
they said that the only person who could make them feel better about their squat was them.
i don't actually care what weights anybody else is lifting. mostly i don't even notice. when someone hits a PR for them that is worth celebrating. when you know how hard someone has worked for their PR (e.g., because they are well and truly over their beginners gains) it isn't worth celebrating more because the load they are lifting is more - it is worth celebrating more because of the amount of work they have put into it.
who cares if you are the strongest person at your gym. that is what t nation is for. to remind us how pathetically weak we all are. hell, I'm the ONLY chick i see Oly Lifting in my gym so I win by default. the other day some dude was like 'are you going to compete in the upcoming comp?' and when i said 'yes' he was like 'well i guess you will win since you will probably be the only girl'. he seemed surprised when i said i'd be happy if i did better than i did in the last comp i competed in.
your opponent is you. are you getting better or aren't you? man up.
(though to be fair i will take a certain satisfaction in kicking his ass one day by sinclair)