though…
you don’t wanna make the girl version of the boys mistake of focusing on your lower body to the exclusion of your upper body. probably you know this, but sometimes it is worth saying.
chin-ups, bench, rows, presses… they are important, too. shapely shoulders and arms etc.
with respect to the ‘too big’ thing that is a fairly rare combination of genetics and one hell of a lot of hard work. you definitely won’t get freaky big overnight if at all - takes a lot of hard work and food to pull off that look and it certainly doesn’t happen by accident. you can pull in the reins down the track if you choose to.
often people say to grow first and worry about ‘shaping’ later. i mean… muscles can only get bigger or smaller or remain the same. body fat levels can rise and fall. that is about all. i’d just hate to see someone half ass their training (lol) for fear that they will get ‘too big’ if they don’t give it their all. they only progress more slowly because of it.
there is still a lot of controversy over whether women and men should train differently. guess the answer is the same in some respects and different in some respects. still a lot of controversy over whether one should start out with a bodybuilding type of bodypart split program vs starting out trying to progress their strength on the basic lifts (e.g., 5x5 or 5/3/1) if the main aim is to look good naked. guess the most important thing is to get a non-stupid program and work hard.
you might like to start a log. it can be a good way to track your progress over time and get some feedback etc.