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I AM An A-Hole.

Dear T-Nation,

I am most definitely an asshole.
But I didn’t realize it until today.
This site is about bettering yourself as a person, in all ways possible. I try to do that in some areas, but not so much in others. I have done some asshole things lately, and I regret them. Lost a girl who loved me for good tonite due to the aforementioned asshole things.

Yeah sure, I was wronged as well, for those who remember. But I think I deserved it. This is kind of like the newbies who post their before pictures in the picture forum. This is my before, and my after will be a much improved version of what I am now.

Sincerely,
Steven M. Filak

p.s. no I am not drunk, yes this is probably sounding real weird right about now. feel free to flame away.

So what did you do?

If shes like most girls I’ve seen she’ll come crawling back in a day.

So yeah, what happened?

I just had this big long story typed out but after reading it I realize how I should never have ever gotten involved with this girl from the beginning. I don’t feel bad about what I did so much anymore, either.

[quote]StevenF wrote:
I just had this big long story typed out but after reading it I realize how I should never have ever gotten involved with this girl from the beginning. I don’t feel bad about what I did so much anymore, either. [/quote]

Great now my interest is peaked. Quit being an asshole and tell us what happend.

We are all assholes. It is how you handle it that counts.

[quote]StevenF wrote:
Dear T-Nation,

I am most definitely an asshole.
But I didn’t realize it until today.
This site is about bettering yourself as a person, in all ways possible. I try to do that in some areas, but not so much in others. I have done some asshole things lately, and I regret them. Lost a girl who loved me for good tonite due to the aforementioned asshole things.

Yeah sure, I was wronged as well, for those who remember. But I think I deserved it. This is kind of like the newbies who post their before pictures in the picture forum. This is my before, and my after will be a much improved version of what I am now.

Sincerely,
Steven M. Filak

p.s. no I am not drunk, yes this is probably sounding real weird right about now. feel free to flame away. [/quote]

Is this, for lack of a better term, the “Mitch Bitch”? If so, she was shady as all hell and I’m glad to hear you are free and ready to start fresh. Good luck, man!

[quote]Digital Chainsaw wrote:

Is this, for lack of a better term, the “Mitch Bitch”? If so, she was shady as all hell and I’m glad to hear you are free and ready to start fresh. Good luck, man!
[/quote]

Yeah! Thanks guy, I guess it was gonna happen sooner or later after that incident. I still think I did some crappy things to her as well, not quite that shady though.

The first step in overcoming a problem is admiting you have one.

Here, I’ll join in.

I’m an asshole, and I am sorry.

Ok, she decided to break up with me last week saying she couldn’t be with someone that didn’t trust her. This was all because of that Mitch incident. I will not elaborate on that.

Then this week she says she has no time for a boyfriend and just wants to focus on school, which is a legit reason. She skipped a bunch of classes when we were together, then after the initial breakup she got sick apparently and missed some more. I figured, well if school was that damn important why wouldn’t she go to class more? I looked at her myspace yesterday and there’s a fuckin comment from Mitch saying she should come over. Needless to say, I’m a bit, well, hurt. I know her myspace password, look at her email there’s some exchange between them back and forth, so I’m real pissed and hurt now. No time to hang out with me but she can hang out with him? I don’t think so.

Ok now the real asshole part. Since she uses the same password for everything, I logged into her hotmail account to see what she tells her teachers, knowing she’s quite the liar. She told her teachers her SISTER died to be excused from her absences.

I just kind of emailed her teachers saying her sister didn’t die and she’s the biggest liar I’ve ever met and needs to learn a lesson from all this.

I know that sounds like a bunch of stupid bullshit that should never have happened in the first place, but I have most definitely learned from all of this. I need to look at myself and improve on some things, and also recognize red flags when they are present, which there were MANY, and not be afraid to just walk away. I’m sure you guys will just rip me apart about all this, but it is expected. I certainly let this go on a lot farther than it had to.

[quote]StevenF wrote:
Ok, she decided to break up with me last week saying she couldn’t be with someone that didn’t trust her. This was all because of that Mitch incident. I will not elaborate on that.

Then this week she says she has no time for a boyfriend and just wants to focus on school, which is a legit reason. She skipped a bunch of classes when we were together, then after the initial breakup she got sick apparently and missed some more. I figured, well if school was that damn important why wouldn’t she go to class more? I looked at her myspace yesterday and there’s a fuckin comment from Mitch saying she should come over. Needless to say, I’m a bit, well, hurt. I know her myspace password, look at her email there’s some exchange between them back and forth, so I’m real pissed and hurt now. No time to hang out with me but she can hang out with him? I don’t think so.

Ok now the real asshole part. Since she uses the same password for everything, I logged into her hotmail account to see what she tells her teachers, knowing she’s quite the liar. She told her teachers her SISTER died to be excused from her absences.

I just kind of emailed her teachers saying her sister didn’t die and she’s the biggest liar I’ve ever met and needs to learn a lesson from all this.

I know that sounds like a bunch of stupid bullshit that should never have happened in the first place, but I have most definitely learned from all of this. I need to look at myself and improve on some things, and also recognize red flags when they are present, which there were MANY, and not be afraid to just walk away. I’m sure you guys will just rip me apart about all this, but it is expected. I certainly let this go on a lot farther than it had to. [/quote]

God damn, bro.

First, cool stunt with the email, death is no joke, and is often related to the toung. One of these days if her sister does die, she will feel like even bigger shit for using that excuse to hang out with a new boytoy.

Second, myspace pages are around for three reasons:
1.) Getting music public.
2.) Keeping in touch with friends.
3.) Attention. Most of these weirdo’s just want to get attention. The chicks post images of themselves in slutty positions to attract comments and more attention.

This bitch sounds like number 3, a promiscuous IM-whore who cant get enough of men. I say, good riddence.

Finnaly, confront her, in person, on the phone, email, whatever. Let her know EVERYTHING you just told us. That you know she’s a liar, that you emailed her teachers, and that you hope she hurt you with all of this bullshit. Then beat the shit out of her new boyfriend, to show her you mean buisness.

Good luck.

You use the Internet as a life-ruining tool.

In other words…

A+++++ EXCELLENT SELLER WOULD BUY FROM AGAIN

Good call with the emails back to the teacher. It took balls, but I don’t think you were that wrong for doing it.

You should log in as her and tell Mitch that you (she) never want to talk to him again. lol

[quote]grew7 wrote:
You use the Internet as a life-ruining tool.

In other words…

A+++++ EXCELLENT SELLER WOULD BUY FROM AGAIN[/quote]

Best post ever.

whatever happened to taking the higher path? i think she would have got what was coming to her one way or another.

itsthenickman, I also believe in karma as well. And to the other guy who said to tell her all this, I already did. Man, was she PISSED.

Without knowing the Mitch story I think you are the biggest fucking dickhead currently on this board.

The good news is Eliteballa left a long time ago.

Given what you’ve told me, you’re not an asshole. At most, you’re nosy for still looking through her shit.

You’ve had your fun, let it go now.

[quote]Norwell Bob wrote:
grew7 wrote:
You use the Internet as a life-ruining tool.

In other words…

A+++++ EXCELLENT SELLER WOULD BUY FROM AGAIN

Best post ever.[/quote]

I’m going to have to agree with this…

Excellent.

[quote]StevenF wrote:
itsthenickman, I also believe in karma as well. And to the other guy who said to tell her all this, I already did. Man, was she PISSED. [/quote]

If you believe in it, then perhaps you’ve become the acting hand of karma. Maybe you are what she had coming… haha :wink:

Move on.