I’m not sure where to put this, but off-topic should be a safe place. I’m having big problems giving advice. I’m not very big (190lbs @ 6’1), and internet references are not valued much. How do I convince them? When I see a friend taking advice about training at least 2 hours for each session, that more then 4 eggs a week might kill you, and getting explained “shaping exersizes”, a part of me, usually hidden, want to pick up something and wave it around the room. Crashing plants while screaming AARRRGH!! But since this doesn’t usually raise my creditability either, I try to hide the frustration.
I know many times, the entire giving advice thing is just my ego wanting validation for all the reading I’ve done. And kind of saying: “Look at me, I’m so intelligent, cool and knowledgable”, more then actually wanting to help out. However, there is a few times when I geniunly want to help. Or I hear somebody say something so so bad. How do you accomplish this? I find many people taking gym teachers or personal trainers words, weighing heavier than mine.
For instance I have this friend who started yesterday. I heard another guy (also beginner) tell him that “everybody who trains seriously trains 2 hours a day”, “Get off that bench press, you need something to isolate that chest of yours”…etc. I go “noooo”. I try explain about testosterone levels and focus dropping drasticly after an hour, but only get some sarcastic response. “oooh, fancy words, just out of some book with no meaning. The trainer in x-gym says this is correct, and she has a husband which is really strong so she is correct”.
Most times it only hurts me to get annoyed. Or getting into such discussion at all. Is the answer that I should not care, nod my head “sure - you are right”, and continue do what I think is right only with myself?