Ok folks, life is getting real. Looking for how you all approach the gym in times like this. Bad things happen, Does intensity help you heal mentally, or do you back off?
My mother passed away 6 weeks ago (hospice care, was not a shock but still exceptionally painful). I’m 45, married with 4 kids and self-sufficient. We knew she was in bad shape, we knew this was coming, and we weren’t dependant on her for anything financially.
I took a couple weeks off work, only lifted for a couple days during that time. I spent most of that time to care for the family and myself. Work is now pulling overtime and I’m the plant manager here, so it’s fast paced and fairly intense. Thankfully, this is a good place to work. I have excellent coworkers and work for a genuinely honorable business owner.
But between work and family (and other family issues beyond what I’m able to discuss here) , my mind has taken a beating. If I slow down with life, the problems pile up.
I cannot tell if I need to slow down with the gym to maybe once a week, or ramp it back up.
I’m not a competitive lifter nor what anyone would consider a true intermediate, but my tendency in the gym is to ride the line between appropriate and excessive intensity. I lift usually 3-4 days per week (PPL). Usually a good intense session feels like damn good therapy to me. Good solitude with my own thoughts too.
But I’m struggling hard with the motivation right now.Lately, I get off work and sit in the parking lot trying to talk myself into going in. Sometimes I go home instead, sometimes I don’t.
Some days I feel like a gym monster. Strong, with mountains of reserve, and feel great the day after. Other days I can hardly get past the warmup. I cannot see a pattern. I only know what kind of day it will be when I get started.
I’m struggling to get a real workout more than twice a week right now.
I’m eating fine, getting a consistent 7-8 hr sleep, and drinking a lot of water, and staying MOSTLY away from sugar and simple starches. No gear, only using creatine, taurine, D3/K2 and Olmesartin for BP. BP stays normal-ish.
When life gets like this, what do y’all do? Do you need the intensity/frequency in the gym to help heal? Or do you cut back for a while?