How Do I Go About Approaching an Attractive Girl?

[flipcollar]

@iamawesomedev

What makes you believe I have a shitty personality?

the things that you say. Literally everyone reading this thread knows it but you…

[flipcollar]

how about the time you asked me to give you an example of your shitty personality?

[polo77j]

@iamawesomedev

What makes you believe I have a shitty personality?

This entire thread?

@iamawesomedev

give an example

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[flipcollar]

@iamawesomedev

It is biologically impossible to have no muscle at all.

@iamawesomedev

Should I hang out with her friends and get closer so that it is okay with her to talk with me alone?

this came off as creepy and it’s manipulative.

@iamawesomedev

I could talk very comfortably with this girl about most things, like a friend. However, starting junior year, I began to notice her physical appearance more and starting thinking “Wow she is so pretty.”

@iamawesomedev

I keep judging myself when I talk to a girl I am interested in.

@iamawesomedev

when I see a girl I have a crush on, I am never comfortable and always analyze her response.

@iamawesomedev

f I get rejected I will never live it down because everyone will find out and gossip about it.

[flipcollar]

there is exactly one way to find out if you have a shitty personality, and that’s by other people telling you ‘hey man. you have a shitty personality’. And you have to trust them. See, the problem with asking for examples of things you said is that you will defend the things you said. Because it was you saying them. You will internally justify these things, you won’t be able to admit that everyone else is seeing the things you say in a much less favorable light than you see yourself.

But yea, what polo said. the entire fucking thread you come off like a person none of us would want as a friend, and you come off as someone who will not be able to land even a first date with an attractive girl. Internalize that, and fix yo self.

[SOUL_FIGHTER]

@iamawesomedev

give an example

@iamawesomedev

I an thin male currently, but I don’t want to train weights and look like a bodybuilder with bulky muscles.

I wanna look like Adrian Peterson or Dolph Lundgren.


I don’t know how to describe, but their muscles just look so perfect.
What training program gets that Goldilocks Physique, if you will. Not too huge, not too small. Just right.

@iamawesomedev

@T3hPwnisher

sport produce the physique, or does the physique find the sport

Neither. Many people will try a sport, and those who work incredibly hard will perform exceptionally well. Of those who put in the work, there will be some who are genetically superior to the rest. Those who had the genetics but did not put in the effort will not make it this far anyway because they did not take advantage of them. The genetic specimens who put in the work will be the absolute best at the sport. Therefore, their bodies become the face of the sport. There will be genetic specimens who never tried the sport, and thus, will never make it to the elite level, due to the the fact that they never used their gifts.

For example, if a kid ends up devoting his life to basketball, and becomes really good but turns out short (under 6’1’'), he won’t make it to the elite level. If another kid devotes his life to distance running, and becomes really good but turns out tall (over 6’11"), he won’t make it to the elite level. If a third kid devotes his life to basketball, and becomes really good and turns out tall (over 6’11"), he WILL make it to the elite level.

Elite levels athletes were born genetic specimens and by chance chose the correct sport for there genetic makeup.

@dchris

Thanks for spending three paragraphs defining what everyone understood from punnys one line.

@iamawesomedev

@strongmangoals

Focus on putting quality mass on. The deadlift will come.

Umm, the point of the deadlift IS to put on mass.

These posts show your “know-it-all” trait. Not a terrible thing, but just sit back and learn at your age and training age. If you have such a desire to know what you don’t know, research stuff on your own based on what we’re directing you towards.

I think it was great that you looked up Pendlay Rows on your own, tried them, and asked us for suggestions.

This is my favorite though:

@SOUL_FIGHTER

@iamawesomedev

I have muscle.

Also:

@iamawesomedev

My 1 rep maxes are:
Overhead Press: 50 lbs
Bench Press: 100 lbs
Deadlift: 95 lbs
Squat: 85 lbs

[flipcollar]

@iamawesomedev

I have friends in real life

yes, the other future incels. we get it.

[SOUL_FIGHTER]

@iamawesomedev

All I will fix myself, but you don’t even know me. I have friends in real life, and no one looks at me that way you do.

Then that’s cool. You have good friends and should have already tried to approach this girl.

[SOUL_FIGHTER]

Thats all you got out of this?

@SOUL_FIGHTER

These posts show your “know-it-all” trait. Not a terrible thing, but just sit back and learn at your age and training age.

Yo Gotti "Law" Ft. E-40 (Lyrics on screen)

“Hush your mouth sometimes and let them teach ya, that law”

[mr.v3lv3t]

Hooo-boy! Now this is a thread.

[iamawesomedev]

I am curious. Why is me stating my opinion make me a know-it-all? Why when anyone else here makes an opinion that is not the case?

Does everyone have a problem with the fact that I, as a beginner, am too arrogant?

[duketheslaya]

[SOUL_FIGHTER]

@iamawesomedev

Does everyone have a problem with the fact that I, as a beginner, am too arrogant?

Yup^

I stay out of most topics, which is exactly why I post within Beginners. I feel like I’ve put in enough training time to share my experience with newer people. That’s also why you don’t see me questioning any approaches in other sections. (Although I am admittedly a natty elitist and need to stay away from TRT and Pharma topics).

When I do ask questions, I do my research before and after. Not saying you haven’t, but the solution to many of your training questions is to try it out for a some time and see how it feels.

To denigrate athlete’s physiques, especially bodybuilders physiques, on a forum that’s very bodybuilding focused is pretty disrespectful.

[SOUL_FIGHTER]

I personally don’t think you’re “creepy”, but I think in this image you’re the guy in red:
https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/tnation/uploads/default/optimized/3X/9/d/9d752b52970a32b81d2065cd126633c230df2411_1_332x500.jpg

[T3hPwnisher]

@iamawesomedev

Does everyone have a problem with the fact that I, as a beginner, am too arrogant?

Yes.

Stating your opinion on a topic you have no experience in is a silly thing. You are certainly entitled to that opinion, but sharing it tends to be a foolish choice. In much the same way I don’t share my very stupid opinions on nuclear physics.

And why oh why did you tag me in this trainwreck @SOUL_FIGHTER haha.

[polo77j]

@flipcollar

See, the problem with asking for examples of things you said is that you will defend the things you said. Because it was you saying them

@iamawesomedev - I’d also recommend actually reading the things that are being pointed out with a critical lens. Ask yourself, how can this be perceived as being shitty? I mean brutal self reflection - put yourself in the shoes of another … it helps with personal growth - you’re young and you have a lot of personal growth ahead of your … might as well hone the skills needed now…

[SOUL_FIGHTER]

I was quoting you from a thread where he said the same thing you did in one sentence… except in 3 paragraphs.

[T3hPwnisher]

Oh no, I saw it, but then as a result I got a notification that led me to this, haha. I do remember that exchange though. It reminded me of “The Sun Also Rises”. Whole lotta reading to get back to where I started.

[SOUL_FIGHTER]

@polo77j

you’re young and you have a lot of personal growth ahead of your … might as well hone the skills needed now…

@iamawesomedev for emphasis. This is great info, and I wish I woulda known some of this shit earlier. I been a mad know it all even after college and it affected my physique, career, and finances.

[iamawesomedev]

Thanks. Yeah I am the guy in the red because I am a math person, I approach everything in life like an equation I need to solve.