How Do I Find a Balance?

[quote]Forcesguy wrote:

[quote]csulli wrote:
Also, 5 days a week is far from ridiculous. I sure as shit wouldn’t take any time off if I were you. How long are each of your workouts typically?[/quote]

my workouts run from 1-2 hours depending on the day and how many people are in the gym along with me[/quote]

Your training volume is very reasonable. Don’t take a break and don’t cut back.

[quote]GorillaMon wrote:
Dude, the world is full of chubby/obese, reality tv show watching, scrawny noodle armed, hypocritical, OH NO! Don’t lift that it looks like it weighs more than a large bag of sugar, future inbreeders…tell them to suck it!

YOUR balance is only off when YOUR priorities go to shit.

In 20 years time, most of the people that used to give you flak for training too much will probably look about as ‘balanced’ as an elephant & squirrel sharing a see-saw.

Be careful who you listen to in calibrating your own, individual, equillibrium. [/quote]

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OP how old are you?

Has it been three months?

Next week is the “Im going bald thread” right?

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

Next week is the “Im going bald thread” right?[/quote]

efff-u~

[quote]Edgy wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

Next week is the “Im going bald thread” right?[/quote]

efff-u~[/quote]

Are sexy and you know it

[quote]Forcesguy wrote:
I find it has gotten to the point that every person I know seems to have nothing nice to say to me, and it causes me to return the favor.

I am to the point where I feel I should just hit the people.[/quote]
These are immature responses.

This is a mature response.

People who don’t train generally usually have negative comments for those who do when they’re face-to-face on a regular basis. I’m sure there’s a deep psychological reason for it - feeling threatened/intimidated/bringing up self-esteem issues/whatever - but you can’t control what others say, do, or act. You do have total control over your response.

It was recently discussed in this thread, and there have been a few other threads with pretty much the same message all around:
http://tnation.T-Nation.com/free_online_forum/sports_body_training_performance_bodybuilding/how_you_deal_with_them_critics

In the end, it’s about getting your own mind right and learning to either brush them off/shut them down (either out loud or to yourself) or just nod, smile, ‘yes’ them until they go away, and keep doing your thing. Also, consider printing out Teddy Roosevelt’s “The Man in The Arena” quote, frame it, and put it on your desk.

With all this therapeutic lifting, are you still seeing progress towards your goals? If their criticisms are fueling productive workouts, fine. But if their words are eating at you and bumming you out, something needs to change.

Read Dan John’s “Work, Rest, Play, Pray” to realign your big picture-perspective:

Maybe your training and eating are fine and they’re just talking shit. That’s likely. But there is a (slim?) chance that if the majority of people you interact with for 40+ hours a week are all telling you the same thing, it might be a little bit valid.

OP is that you in the avatar pic? You don’t look like you lift so maybe that’s part of your co-worker’s concern? Not trying to be rude here, but if some chubby dude that I worked with kept telling me he was going to work out and was then gone for a few hours only to come back looking chubby while eating a submarine sandwhich and swilling gatorade I’d be like, “dood, you need to get a grip”.

[quote]sen say wrote:
OP is that you in the avatar pic? You don’t look like you lift so maybe that’s part of your co-worker’s concern? Not trying to be rude here, but if some chubby dude that I worked with kept telling me he was going to work out and was then gone for a few hours only to come back looking chubby while eating a submarine sandwhich and swilling gatorade I’d be like, “dood, you need to get a grip”.[/quote]

that is me, but that was about a year ago, I was 225-230 at 20% + BF im now 200-205 17-18% BF just haven’t posted a new avatar

chris, their words do both. they eat away at me yet at the same time that drives me to get better. there has been progress towards what I want

[quote]Forcesguy wrote:
chris, their words do both. they eat away at me yet at the same time that drives me to get better.[/quote]
Fair enough, but if you’re using their words as motivation, try not to let them linger afterwards. Meaning, there shouldn’t be anything left to eat away at you when you walk out of the gym.

[quote]there has been progress towards what I want

I was 225-230 at 20% + BF im now 200-205 17-18% BF[/quote]
Presuming those numbers are accurate, you lost mostly muscle. I don’t think that’s the progress you’re hoping for. If those bodyfat % numbers aren’t accurate and your before/after pictures and strength levels show something different, that’s another story.

well those are what I got from simple online calculations for BF so I am not sure how accurate they are, but as my weight went down my strength has gone up and I understand what your saying about not letting their words get to me when im done. what I am finding is that I forget about them while working out, but as soon as I leave something or someone will say something and ill remember what they said and I feel back to square one…

How did this guy find balance?

[quote]Derek542 wrote:
How did this guy find balance?[/quote]

Genetics.

[quote]imhungry wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:
How did this guy find balance?[/quote]

Genetics.[/quote]

Roids

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]imhungry wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:
How did this guy find balance?[/quote]

Genetics.[/quote]

Roids[/quote]

Basketball.

[quote]LoRez wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]imhungry wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:
How did this guy find balance?[/quote]

Genetics.[/quote]

Roids[/quote]

Basketball.[/quote]
Racist.

[quote]imhungry wrote:

[quote]LoRez wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]imhungry wrote:

[quote]Derek542 wrote:
How did this guy find balance?[/quote]

Genetics.[/quote]

Roids[/quote]

Basketball.[/quote]
Racist.[/quote]

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no, not you - you!

How YOU view the world is everything. People can give you the best advice on living, diet, training or whatever, if your view of what others think of you is higher than how you view yourself your self esteem will always be dependent on someone else.
 
In my 45 years of life Between NYC public schools, the military and Gyms between GITMO-Hawaii I can tell you now. Put any 4 guys in a room for more than 15 min and the conversation will go from calling each other lazy lard ass limp dicks to how good the other guys mom, sister, mother, cousin is in bed. Guys talk shit to each other.

It’s how you take it that makes the difference.

That and 2live Crew videos was my porn of the 90’s