Being a Christian is supposed to hurt.
Ik. They teasing me cause my dating game sucks. I know it sucks so that’s part of why I made this thread.
My first thought was it’s his second account.
Not sure what you mean by sucks but I was single for 12 years before I met my wife and I always looked at it like a baseball hitter(my favorite sport) if you bat .300 you’re a good hitter but that means that 7 out of 10 told you no. If you can’t push that to .400 you are an all star. You just gotta keep swinging but don’t always swing for the fences. Singles and doubles will lead to you scoring.
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This is about repeated sin and you didn’t say what the sin was. So you want religious advice or dating advice?
Yeah that’s a good place to start considering they aren’t objects. And you’ll do better with them when you don’t have to remind yourself of this.
Don’t be embarrassed. No one has any clue who you are. Fuck what other people think. I didn’t learn that when I was your age but the sooner you do the happier you will be.
I can’t give you much religious advice because I don’t think masturbation is a sin in the least bit but I also stopped believing in God long ago. Did he/she tell you personally it was a sin? How are you so convinced it is one?
And if it is determined for you that sucks. Sounds like a bunch of fun hating to me. I think fun hating is the ultimate sin. Why is this video incorrect? Because it’s not in some really old book no one agrees on?
The only explanation I’ve ever been given about why masturbation may be wrong for a Christian that ever made any sense to me was that sex should be a selfless act, with two people who love each other “giving” to each other, and trying to please each other. Masturbation is about pleasing yourself, so it takes the selflessness out of the deal.
Obviously most won’t agree with that, and I often don’t refrain from engaging in it myself, but that explanation doesn’t bother me or sound inherently wrong - in my opinion.
I believe it’s a sin because of lust. I’m curious as to why you stopped believing in god. Do you mind telling?
I mean you can’t really jack off with an empty mind right?
Wouldn’t worry about it dude. I’ve asked/said plently of dumb stuff on here. We don’t actually know each other, so who cares. I mean, try not to be a tool, but we don’t really care what other members do in their personal life, so long as they’re not hurting people.
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Abandon the “whacking off is a sin” mindset. If you have a problem with compulsive porn use, figure out why you use it. My guess is probably you, like most people who have a problem like that, is you are using it as an emotional management tool. If not, figure out the behavioral reason you are using it. I promise you its not because the devil is leading you astray. Its because you have a gap in your emotional maturity. Your going to need to learn how to be uncomfortable, and sort through feeling shitty in order to become a well balanced adult, do this by building a good support systems of trusted friends and family and healthy coping mechanisms.
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Do you have any female friends? Thats probably the place to start if you don’t. Learn to talk to women like they are a person and learn how to get to know people before automatically going straight to determining if they could be your gf.
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I’ve yet to be successful at that, haha. I’m guessing no.
Related question - me and some friends were talking about wet dreams the other day. I’ve never had one, and neither have most of my friends, but one guy did. I mean I’ve had sex dreams, but this dude says he’s woken up with a full load blown in his drawers. Does that really happen? I just can’t imagine it.
It stopped making sense to me as I got older. I didn’t understand how an all powerful and all
loving god could let people be tortured for eternity. Especially if logic and critical thinking are the reasons why a lot of people don’t believe. Which was given to us if we were made by him?
Not to mention I was largely raised Methodist or Christian precisely because of where I was born. And I guess I’m magically right and all the people who believe differently because they were born somewhere else are wrong? And again according to my beliefs will be punished?
It doesn’t make sense to me now to believe in something no one has ever seen. Now plenty of people do and that’s fine. But most of those people all disagree on what that person wants and needs you to do. And if you really explore and think about it you’ll probably realize that you don’t know either. That you’re basing how you think this being wants you to be based off translations from really old texts and tons of different interpretations of that.
Definitely happens. I’ve had a couple when I was younger and I think it’s pretty common. I’m not sure how often I would say I had a full load or something, been a while now but definitely something that happens.
I’ve heard that reason before. I actually questioned it myself. Then I thought if he was a control freak would he really be a loving god? I personally believe god for this reason. I just took the time to think about it. How do we humans know what good and bad is? Why isn’t murder considered good. Like USA was founded on Christian ideas. Why do these laws work? It’s God’s way of right and wrong. All sin is equal I mean we were about to be punished but jesus died for our sins blah blah blah.
You’re going to have to own this. Someone else saying something, then saying that they said it doesn’t cut it for real self improvement. Neither does rephrasing it into meaninglessness.
I don’t mean here, but personally. I’ve had to do the same with booze and drugs. Stripping something down to its essential ugliness and saying it out loud makes it real, and something you can work with and do something about.
Different subject, I know, but I’ve seen thousands of people try, succeed, and fail in recovery from substance abuse. The ones that wince, rephrase, or play semantic games fail 100% of the time.
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Well, your mindset starts with the things you allow yourself to say to others. Habits are repeated actions, accumulated over a period of time. The same can be said about mindset: it’s is made up of habits It is repeated word, attitude, and action.
Obviously we don’t usually change every sphere (word, attitude, action) at the same time, even though that’s probably the ideal way. However, changing 1 area makes changing the others easier. Snowball effect and all that.
That’s why changing your mindset is so hard. It sucks being wrong and having a churning stomach
Eh…the enslavement of one race and the genocide of another definitely look similar to many of the acts of Christians (and zealots from every religion) throughout history but when I’m told by my uber- “Jesus was an American conservative!” aunt that that’s what the U.S. was founded on, I tend to argue it.