Okay. Been married to my wife five years and have not been with anyone else during this period. Durign the past 6 months our marriage has been shaky with her coming home at 3:00am while out dancing with her friends. She has said she does not love me in the past, whereas now she does. A week ago I developed a lesion on my penis and two days ago I came down with flu-like symptoms associated with genital herpes. I have not been tested yet and therefore don’t plan on telling her anything until i get the results. Although she insists she has been faithfult o me, on one occasion she told me she had sex with another guy, but then said she only told me that to make me angry. Tonight she drove off to see a male co-worker off who is leaving upon military activation. She insista she does not even find this person attractive.
According to my reseach, herpes developes 2-20 days, or more, after contracting the virus. 15% of genital herpes come from oral herpes. It just so happens that she has had a rash around her mouth for over a month now.
Does anyone know if I could have held onto the virus in a dormant stage this long (five years)? Also, who am I having first time symptoms now? I had similar lesions when I was 19 but determined it was not herpes and just some kind of rash.