Hey all, I have a friend who needs some advice on how to approach a sensitive situation/topic.
My friend is a white girl and her boyfriend is black. I met the guy once and a few things struck me.
During my conversation with him (and the rest of the four of us at the lunch table), he tended to bring the conversation around to himself. He also tended to blame white people, a lot, for current problems (in front of my friend). In fact, almost every topic was veered over to these two topics. My friend tells me that this is a trend in his behavior and has put off the friends of hers that she has tried to introduce him to.
When she tried bringing this up with him, he apparently tied this behavior into his race. That is, he essentially told her that she wouldn?t understand why he acts the way he does because she isn?t black.
There are two issues here, namely the gentleman?s attitude and his belief. Speaking as an immigrant of color myself, I can see why one would blame the dominant race, but in my experience in North America (particularly the US), this is for the most part unwarranted. If you educate yourself and work hard towards your goal, you won?t be stopped. Maybe I?m naive.
But the question is, how does one approach the situation given the boyfriend?s attitude? Any suggestions?
Thank you for your time,