Figure Athlete is a good place to start, although it doesnt really tell you the basics:
1 - Focus on progression: Either be getting more reps in with the same weight or get more weight on the bar with every workout if you can. This will NOT lead you to looking manly masculine.
2 - You must be working HARD during your workouts. If the last few reps of your sets are not difficult chances are you will not be improving your physique very much. I'm not saying you need to be grunting and yelling to finish the last rep, but it should be very hard.
3 - Diet and cardio: These are largely personal and vary greatly between individuals. As for diet you typically want to stick with some kind of "healthy" eating plan that includes lean proteins and veggies, good carb sources (beans, oatmeal, etc...) and do as much cardio as you need to to reach your goal. Some people can get away with very little, I had to do 2 sessions a day when I was getting very lean.
4 - Accountability: Write down your goals, stick to them, tell people about them. The more people in your life who know about your goals the more you will be likely to stay on track. People wont be offering you birthday cake at the office if they know you are dieting, family wont be sending your christmas cooking by the dozen
5 - Training: If you are new I'd probably start with a 3 or 4 day a week program that includes many large movements (squatting, lunges, pressing).