Long Story Short,
My mother, 50 years old suffers from degenerative disk disease and arthritis in the lower back and neck. She used to play soccer back in her early 20â??s, but after having 3 children that stopped and all exercise other than walking (less than 5 miles per week). Sheâ??s always suffered from lower back pain, but in the past year or two things have really picked up, i.e. the diagnosis with DDD and arthritis. She has bone spurs in her shoulder, and a possible rotator cuff tear as well.
In general she doesn't like exercising and hasn't done any real exercising in 25 years other than walking. Her posture is a mess, her back is out of alignment, doesn't follow the natural curve. Her diet is a mess too, low protein, high carbs and lots of refined foods.
The doctor has recommended water aerobics to her and basically wants to keep her full of cortisone all the timeâ?¦I would like to help my mother improve her health and quality of life but itâ??s difficult to do so with her medical conditions. My mother hasn't taken up the water aerobics yet nor do I think she plans to. Iâ??ve tried to help numerous times, offering to pay for her water aerobics classes, offering her better nutrition guidelines, trying to help her lose weight, etc. and she doesn't seem to want to budge.
She blames genetics for her problems. Itâ??s almost like she doesn't want to get better, she only wants everyone else to be as miserable as her (I could be projecting my own frustration with her here, so read lightly).
How can I help my mother improve her posture without worsening her DDD and arthritis, and aggravating her shoulder? I feel like she fell through a one-way path here and is beyond help, but there must be something I can do? I mean there is only so much encouragement I can give, true motivation needs to comes from within her, correct?