Well here is my question....I will have to go into a little detail to fully explain it.
OK hmmm where do I start....
Well, at the beginning of the year my husband went to go see the doc. for his normal allergy problems. And also for a pain in the neck he had been having chronically after sleeping on a crappy aero-bed during the holidays. The doc asked how old he was and he said I am 30. The doctor had a talk with him & asked him about his exercise routine. Of course my husband was like uhhh none. He works with computers & is in grad school. His life-style is to say the least sedentary. He has a very thin build and can eat anything and as much of whatever he wants without ever having problems like getting fat. Yes I love being around him while I have to diet! LEt me tell you it sucks! LOL....
Well anyhow, the doc goes on to explain to him the importance of exercise and not just taking a walk but lifting weights at least 3 times a week to keep his body from basically getting injured so easily. Apparently as we get older and if we limit our exercise our bodies literally start to fall apart. So husband calls me "knowing" I am going to have a hay day with this one. Well, he is gung ho ready to do this.... we have been through this before too let me tell you....let's rewind a bit and talk about that shall we...
So the last few attempts for him to work out uhh yea he got even skinnier! I had a peek at his goals in his goal book when he started a training regime and I saw that he wanted basically more muscle all around esp. in the UB. He has great legs he was a cyclist but a very tiny upper body. Well after he gave the BFL program a try at 4 weeks and this was with little cardio (my advice was none but he would not listen) well, he lost inches! I also was feeding him double carb portions with more protein portions as well. Yea and still he lost muscle. Not what we were wanting at all. I mean like 2 inches everywhere. And he is always at about 7% bodyfat. Basically, after seeing those stats after 4 weeks he got pissed and said fuck it. He was really, really, frustrated. It really sucked for me watching this. I kept encouraging him and saying well trial and error it happens keep trying. But he got moody and would not even approach the subject anymore.
So fast forward to now ... so he is gung ho ready to do it at the beginning of January. He explains that he wants to work out to be healthy etc... OK I am more than happy with that. So I have great resources to get everything for him... meal plan, workouts, EVERYTHING.... so I get it for him. Well, he has since then worked out only one day. In the middle of January.
So my question is how do I push him or "motivate" him to get started? I know he secretly wants to have more muscle etc... and I know his past few attempts at this were really discouraging so I was wondering how in the heck do you go about this?
I don't want to piss him off and make him think that his appearance is not attractive. Because that is not it. I love him regardless of what he looks like. Gaawd knows he has accepted me even though my body went through many changes. From Fit and attractive to fat and unattractive and back to getting fit and so on lol... I just know he secretly wants to look better, feel better, and have more confidence, but feel the failed past attempts hold him back. So how do I approach this? Should I purchase some PT with my w-out partners husband who is BBer? Maybe to get him going? Maybe to have a more positive experience at this? HELP I need a guys perspective!!!
Thanks for listening and I appreciate any input I really do! Thanks for taking the time to read this.