The problem is that you think that increasing test does anything to your weightloss. It doesnt.
You lose weight exactly the same on or off steroids, and on all the doses.
Weightloss is about calories in vs calories out and steroids in no way can speed the process up.
If a person doesnt lose weight natural or trt, he wont lose any by upping the dose.
Id say you are over-eating.
You are aiming for pretty low deficit, which is not a bad tactic, but think about this :
So you want around 1k deficit a day. If an online calculator is off by some 10% which is completely normal and your maintenance is a bit lower, you are stuck with 700kcal deficit.
If the way you eat and calculate is also off by 10% which ALSO is completely normal, you are now in a 500kcal deficit. Which leads to around 1 pound of weight loss a week. But since you increased test, there is a possible little water retention, maybe extra muscle glycogen - maybe you gained a few drops of muscle even and voila - weight stays the same.
Also there is a possibility that cortisol retains water or even fat due to fact you are training alot.
Grappling is very hard on CNS.
I am in martial arts myself, striking tho, but i know how much a good sparring takes out of you. Since grappling always uses 100% of strenght, id say 4 times is much too much.
Lift 2 times a week - good. Dont do 3.
Also cut down the BJJ. Either do technique work only with no resistance, or just cut it down to 1-2 sessions.
When i was doing MMA instead of kickboxing like now, i always felt destroyed after grappling. It was hurting in places i didnt even know there was such places. Given your age, i believe it comes down to a mix of all these things…
1)Online calculator and ANY ways we can calculate our daily kcal can be off by 10-15%. Thats a standard margin of error.
2)The way you calculate food can also be off by the same margin. Sometimes the apple is more sweet, sometimes the chicken is a bit more dry. Sometimes the bread is a bit more moist because it was in a bag, or a bit more dry because the air got to it.
3)Training raises cortisol. Cortisol creates bloat for some people.
4)You are not 20, so shit is harder. I used to do 2 MMA sessions a day + gym every day when i was 27. As soon a i hit 30, i also hit a point where i can only do EITHER a gym session OR a sparring session, but never both combined, and i still need a week off like every 6-7 weeks.
So basically you could be on much lower kcals by miscalculation + overtraining a bit and the buildup of inflamation fluids mask whatever little weightloss is going on.
I would suggest you keep the diet as it is. Take 1 week off and ONLY do steady state cardio like stationary bike or elyptical. Not running. Something that moves smooth.
After that 1 week, start doing EOD training. BJJ - OFF - GYM - OFF - BJJ - OFF etc. If that doesnt fix the problem, add steady state cardio on training days - starting with 10mins after each session.
I already know how you will feel about this. As a fellow overtrainer i do understand how hard it is to cut back but you have to ask yourself - are you doing this to get results or just to feed your training addiction. Like every addiction it comes with side effects and you are experiencing them right now.
No one in the world needs 4 BJJ sessions unless they are making money with it. If you cant learn enough in 2…4 wont make you into a monster anyways. If you are competing, you can up the BJJ 1-2 months out from competition but then just drop the gym as gym probably does nothing for your grappling at that point.