HAHA…yeah, thanks Justin…me and Scrub have talked about our ex’s ALOT in the past few months. Entertainment for all of you, right??..;o)
First off, I have to say that I feel your pain and that it is no easy task to cut all ties with an ex, and you did!!..so good for you! Like you, I got to the point where I just made a decision to stop seeing my ex, cause every time I saw her…I would feel WORSE than before. My situation is unique cause well… my ex still lives in the same town as me so there are times where we bump into one another. She works at my bank for crying out loud!! Whats worse is that she now lives with her new boyfriend less than half a mile away from my house…so that sucks major donkey balls. Irregardless, I just made it a point to try to avoid her as much as possible. I don’t go to the bank when I know she is there. I don’t go and workout when I know she is there. Granted, like I said…we still bump into one another from time to time, but that is the downfall of living in such a small town.
We broke up in January and I still think about her quite a bit. It wasn’t a “bad” breakup by any means. We just got in a rut and decided that we needed to go our seperate ways. I miss her more than anything and there are times where I think to myself that one day we will get back together, cause like I said…it WASN’T a bad breakup…we still care for one another tremendously. But she moved on and got another boyfriend (which is a whole nother story…don’t get me started about the fuckstick she is with now), so I don’t see it happening anytime soon. People heal differently. She got a new boyfriend rather quickly. As for me…well, I don’t have a new girlfriend unfortunately. I havn’t even been on a date. Obviously, having someone around to hang out with would work wonders, but us “shy” types have a hard time finding dates…haha. Like I said…people heal differently. And I am just not going to jump into any relationship for the sole purpose of being with someone. So while everyone is saying, “just find another girlfriend”…its easier said than done for some people, know what I mean? I am a firm believer, that you should WANT to be in a relationship, not NEED to be in one. So don’t rush things. If you’re ready to move on and start dating, more power to you…that is great. But if you’re not (its been 10 months for me and I am still not ready, but I’m getting close…haha), than you can do many other things to keep you occupied. Here are some thing that I did:
hit the weights HARD!! And I mean with a vengence!!! Going to the gym has always been a saving grace for me. Its a place that for atleast 1 hour, I don’t have to think about her and I can just let my mind go. Not to mention all I have to do is think about her new boyfriend to help me get a really heavy deadlift up…;o)
READ. I have to tell ya, reading has helped me soooooooo much. I made a conscious decision to put a dent into the Modern Library’s Top 100 English Novels of the Century and I am having so much fun doing it. Since April or so, I have read like 20-25 novels. Not too shabby huh? I go to the local Borders just about every weekend and I read for a few hours and maybe catch a movie to boot. VERY relaxing. Plus, now that the students from IC and Cornell are back…more ladies at the bookstore…;o)
Anyways, those are just some suggestions. Its definetely not fun trying to get over an ex. But I am doing ALOT better now than I was a few months ago. And from the sounds of it, you seem to be doing better now that you told her that you don’t want to see her anymore. Good for you. Well, I don’t know if I was of any help. I tend to ramble on and on when it comes to talking about my ex. So…sorry everyone for the boring post. Good luck my man. Where is Scrub anyways??? I thought for sure he would offer some advice!! Tony G