[quote]OctoberGirl wrote:
Makavali wrote:
I think getting the government involved in marriage is just stupid.
And if you think men aren’t getting the raw deal… Paul McCartney anyone?
There is nothing good about marriage when one party has a pretty sweet deal to break the contract. Assets accrued during the course of the marriage should be split in two.
Alimony makes no sense to me either. Can someone explain that one to me?
OctoberGirl wrote:
Folks who feel there is nothing good about marriage and that it is an undue financial and emotional burden with nothing in return, shouldn’t get married. Hire a maid, a cook, a babysitter and date your fuck buddy.
Alternatively, they could follow that whole “til death do you part” schtick. Men and women.
EDIT: That doesn’t include murder. Or hiring assassins. Unless they’re ninjas.
Ninjas.
Awesome.
I do love it when you guys start these “why women are evil” threads.
In many cases during a marriage when there are children the wife may have to quit her job in order to take care of the child. This means she is out of the work force, not accruing retirement savings, experience, or being available for opportunities. Alimony is often used to offset this circumstance. Sometimes a spouse is asked to quit the job to be available to a spouse who may want a house-spouse. Again, this means the spouse is not accruing retirement savings, experience or job opportunities.
I hate adding that I actually don’t care one way or the other. Becareful who you marry. I just think you guys need to get over the victim mentality. A woman faces more obstacles on a career path then men do sometimes just because it is the fertile years, and women do get paid less on the dollar than men. Perhaps it shouldn’t be the burden of men to step up because a woman may be out of the job market due to birth and child rearing but what is the solution? Should women be poorer due to the biology of being the woman?
I dunno… it is just exasperating that you men think women are just using you for money. Do you average joes really think you would be worth it?
and if you are so outraged, get off your butts and do something. Call your representative, start a petition, call your CongressMAN, get a bill initiated, go on fella, the system is yours to work with.
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That’s why it should be a case-by-case determination. A woman who is raising the children, especially if she had a career the couple decided she should give up to do so, is making much more of a contribution to the marriage [and the family] than a woman in a childless marriage who doesn’t worked, never worked, never wanted to work, and does little else besides.