It isn’t just the man paying, it is a division of the marital assets. Assets that were acquired during the length of the marriage. A marriage of long duration is more than 10-years and in that case the lower wage earning spouse (man or woman) is most likely entitled to alimony.
We worked on a case where the woman was a real estate agent and making 2.5mil a year. The husband was a house husband who was an aspiring writer. Never wrote anything. At the 11th year anniversary he had her served with papers by his boyfriend. The wife thought they had just been really good friends.
He was a savvy fella and had played her.
Things happen and Courts don’t want to legislate love. Marriages are unique. People can fall out of love and you can’t quantify the reason, the depth or the validity of that happening.
Regarding alimony, typically men do STILL make more money for the same job. I do hope you all realize that.
Also typically, the brunt of the housework and child rearing lands on the wife. Women usually work and then come home and do housework and take care of the kids moreso than the husband. It just is, just works out that way.
There is also legislature out there that is taking into account divorced spouses living with new significant others in order to continue to receive support. The Courts aren’t stupid and are aware of those situations.
There is no such thing as an amicable divorce.