Had an affair, what now?

Brock,
I’d like you to know i usually considered you to a be a bit arrogant and i didnt really like the writing style you portray. but brother ive never held anyone in a higher regard for a post than i do for you now bro. that was pure genius and i was thinking the same thing as i was reading that post. i only differ on one point its your duty to tell your wife what youve done and hope to god she doesnt cut your cock off. cause brother if she finds out through some other means besides you its gonna be a big mess. BTW having no regard for a marriage really makes you SCUM. however i believe your wife loves you and if your repentant i think you can be forgiven we’ve all made mistakes but i am calling you to repentance man change your life bro you may have married for looks but that couldnt have been all cause no matter who she is when shes 60 she aint gonna look as good as she used to so if you married someone just for looks you reap your reward i only hope you can realize the magnitude of this and i pray for your wife and kids especially your kids.

A bit off the topic, but what’s up with the promiscuity in the health care business? I have a friend who is an intern right now, and she gets plowed all the time by various doctors. She is not even that good looking, but she has plenty of takers. Sometimes I have to cover my ears to prevent getting a whole different view of the soap opera “General Hospital.” In the examination room, in the doc’s office, behind the curtains…Gee, I feel so bad for her boyfriend.

Strasser what the hell is this crap about about
liberals causing the moral breakdown of this country? Conservatives are adultery commiting fools. A little list-newt gingrich-how many marriages has he busted up with his adulterous behavior? Henry Hyde. George Bush Sr. Jeb Bush.
Bob Livingstone. Bob Barr. Peggy Noonan. Rudy Guiliani-not that I have anything against him. And of course who can forget the 26 yr old George weaselboy Bush fucking a 15 year old girl, getting her pregnant and then pressuring her into having an abortion. A felony then! Well Brock you ought to just line up with good old Jerry and Pat and say that we deserved what happened on sept11 because we is so danged immoral.

Your a slut, NO, I didn’t mistake you for a woman. You don’t deserve the wife or kids you have.

Let me tell you a little story, its about a young man who grew up without a father because his dad was a fucking slut like you. His dad screwed his co-worker, and then married the bitch, and left his son with his mother to raise him by herself. His father lived 10 minutes away from him but barely ever saw his son, because a man who isn’t faithful to his wife won’t be faithful to his children. All through his childhood the boy had no male role model, no clue who he was supposed to be. Then the boy’s father died of lung cancer when he was only 15, and the boy couldn’t even say goodbye because the adulteress he married made sure no one talked to him when they brought him home from the hospital to die. Then that same bitch of a wife made sure that the boy wasn’t even allowed to sit with his own family during the funeral. I’m sure you can figure out that I’m that person, but there’s one more thing… I never cried one tear when my father passed away, NOT ONE, not at the wake or funneral, he didn’t deserve it. You see I grew to hate the coward that was my father, and decided that I would never be like him. I’ve grown up one fucked up young man, hating everything and everyone, because now, at 21 years old I could finally go and kick the shit out of him, but he’s gone and its too late!

I really do hope that you tell your wife and kids so your children can grow up to be angry young adults like me, and tear their hair out at the very mention of your name. I hope that bitch you fuck, becomes the bane of your existence and you cannot excape her controlling hand. You say you have feelings for this woman? Well you better get rid of them real quick or you'll have no tears at your funeral. Let my fucked up childhood be a warning of what could happen to your kids. You can't fix your marriage because whats done is done. I just hope you can keep your offspring from divorcing you like your wife surely will. Tuck your balls in between your legs because you don't deserve to show them. Repent, and prevent more damage from being done.

Promiscuity in health care is pandemic for
several reasons. There is a power imbalance,
more men than women are MD’s, more women than
men are RN’s. RN’s are general “under” MD’s.
Many women are attracted to ‘strong men’ or
those they perceive as strong. Hours and
frustration run high in these areas. Sex is
a convenient (not always easy) way to blow
off steam. I can tell you stories that will
make your head spin. A good friend of mine
is now an attending ENT doc in NYC. When he
was a 1st year resident at ME&E (general
surg tern) he was engaged to the Chief of
Surgery’s youngest daughter. Well following
36 hours of straight work, he ended up
boinking a nurse in a utility closet and
got “walked in on”. Word traveled fast and
by the time he got home, all his shit was in
green Glad garbage bags out in the street.
To “punish him” for this transgression, he
got marginal evals and had to “redo” his
1st year all over again. He got the hint.
When I was single and living in Boston, I
was an ER RN who worked per diem. I was
working one Friday night with a female
doc who was BE in IM and was a fellow in
pulmonary. She moonlighted in the ER.
After a bad night where we had 3 people stroke
out within 20 minutes of each other, she
asked me, at 7AM, if I wanted to catch a
drink with her. I said yes. And I ended
up at her apartment and we of course, had
mad sex. And it never happened again
(even though I wanted it to!) and I worked
with her maybe a dozen more times. I guess
we in health care tend to depersonalize sex.
This is not healthy for sure, it is just
the way it is and has been and most likely
will be for a long time. -

Brock

Brock- I think you’re right on the money. There was a time in my life when I could almost guarantee any woman interested in me was either a nurse or a stripper and I never understood why, I couldn’t see any correlation at the time. One of my friends is a male nurse and he has an endless supply of “slutty nurse” stories. Combining my experience with nurses and his stories has pretty much caused me to swear off ever dating another nurse.

“My wife and I have had some rough times, and been on the edge of divorce a couple of times. But I have never made it final. Now, crazily I am thinking about it. Can anyone offer advice.”

It’s obvious from your use of the word crazily that you feel what you are doing is wrong based on you own moral code. Really in the end it is your own morality that counts. To thy own self be true. Talking liberal or conservative is crap. It just invites you to look for the hypocrisy of the writer. For example, “It’s OK to violate the laws of your community and nation when it comes to controlled illegal drugs like steroids, but when it comes to marital fidelity that’s where I draw the line. Dammed adulterers are ruining the country.” That’s bullshit selective morality. Calling the woman a slut and you an asshole isn’t very productive either.

The reality is that you made a solemn commitment to your wife and brought two children into the world. I doubt very seriously that your wife or children have any idea that you are living a lie. Most likely they think that Daddy is working long hours to make life better for the family. By living this lie you are stealing your wife’s freedom to honestly love you.
You asked for advice so here is my advise.
First, confession. Tell a priest, a counselor, a pastor, somebody you can trust. Someone that will never reveal your crime. Second, apology. Apologize to this woman you conspired with for being dishonest and without integrity. Tell her that you can never see her again outside of your normal work activity. Apologize to your wife for not being the kind of husband you should have been. Don’t tell her about the other woman, just keep it short and simple. No phony promises. Apologize to your kids for not being the kind father you should have been. Apologize to your boss, if you have that kind of relationship with him. Most likely all of these people know something is amiss. Third, restitution. It’s time to give back. All human failings are founded in selfishness. “The rules don’t apply to me.” “I deserve more.” “They don’t understand me.” That’s crap. Talk is cheap. Live an honest life. Give of yourself to your wife and kids without any hope of a return. Give even more to make up for this betrayal.

My only other advise is develop a spiritual life and lead your family in that direction. Then when trouble or temptation hits you won’t turn to a bodybuilding web site after the fact, you will be able to turn to God.

Introduce me to your wife so I can “comfort” her next time you are out screwing your mistress.

Run from the whore and pray for strength. Save your life, your soul and your childrens vision of there father. I am not going to lecture, I instead will pray for you finding the way home.

i was stayin out of this one, but oh i somehow feel the urge to defend drugs (and i don’t DO drugs, just smoke mj). ““It’s OK to violate the laws of your community and nation when it comes to controlled illegal drugs like steroids, but when it comes to marital fidelity that’s where I draw the line. Dammed adulterers are ruining the country.” That’s bullshit selective morality” --No you are indeed quite wrong. You should perhaps have a philsophical basis for your reasoning. Good luck finding ANY respectable american politicians/theorists on your side. "“The legitimate powers of the government extend to such acts only as are injurious to others.” -Thomas Jefferson Then you have ““There is no greater tyranny, than that which is perpetrated under the shield of law and in the name of justice” - Charles de Scondat, the Baron of Montesquieu (1742)” the guy who “created” the three branch government system which Madison adopted and incorporated into the Constitution. then of course “In a civilised society, it is the duty of all citizens to obey just laws. But at the same time it is the duty of all citizens to disobey unjust laws.” - Martin Luther King Jr. Then
“Anyone in a free society where the laws are unjust has an obligation to break the law.”

  • Henry David Thoreau. Bottom line is that the law itself is not so important, as the value and reason behind it, and as citizens we must interpret the law for ourselves, quite nicely summarized --“We the People are the rightful master of both congress and the courts - not to overthrow the Constitution, but to overthrow the men who pervert the Constitution.” Abraham Lincoln. This is the principle behind the all-but-forgotten commonlaw mentioned in our Consitution.

bad move!!!you should never have gotten married and you’re going to be 50% lighter in your wallet

hey stuck, it seems obvious that the situation would improve if your wife simply “disappeared”. then you could stick your mistress with the kids while you go cunt plug some other dirty whisker biscuit. works for me.-poke

Why don’t the liberals do that? Because
it is a conspiracy, it is a conspiracy I
tell you and they are conspiring to ruin
America and replace it with their “Liberal”
and “Progressive” version of a Utopian society where everyone is absolutely equal and there is no money and there is only socialism and communism.
W
e all wear funny little hats and embrace
each other, calling each other “comrade”.
Wait, that was the former Soviet Union.
That experiment worked out…uhhhh…“well”.
Liberals are for taking away my rights, your
rights, for “egalitarian” reasons. Now
conservatives (even democrats) feel the
opposite - less government, more freedom for
us. Liberals like big governments with
huge agencies that dictate everything you
do. Heck, if someone like Hillary becomes
president, be prepared for a “Bureau of
Flatulent Exudated Gasses” - yep, she will
even regulate the way you float air bisquits!
And let’s not forget how the liberals think
we are all totally equal. I can’t wait
to see NBA games with fat, 5’4" asthmatic
white kids as starters because they are
equal and need the same opps as a Mike Jordan.
I can’t wait to go into the hospital ER and
see fucking Rain Man as my doctor because,
shouldn’t autistic kids have every opportunity
as non-autistic kids? I can see it now,
“uh…oh oh, nope, can’t defibrillate now,
2 minutes to Warpner”. I also like how the
liberals want to “elimate” pornography
(along with the feminist dyke cunts who
waste tax payer money by spending years
“earning” PhD’s in women’s studies at
colleges everywhere - btw, where the fuck is
my men’s study major?) because pornography
objectifies women and exploits women. Oh
really? Go to yahoo or google and type in
“gay porn” and see how many web sites
come up that offer “man on man” DVD’s and
videos. Oh, but even though there is
probably not a single woman on one of these
tapes (guessing here, I’ll never watch one),
it still exploits women? Or maybe it
doesn’t, I don’t know, how do the liberal
feminist penis envying trolls view this?
Watching two dudes suck each other off and
bone each other up the brown eye close up
on a video, maybe that is not “pornography”
because women aren’t involved? Liberals
have this terrible habit of “do as I say,
not as I do”. Heck, liberal fuckwit, Mike
Kennedy had sex constantly with his 14
year old babysitter!!! Since he was a
Kennedy, he would never be punished so
God saw fit to slam his liberal ass into a
tree while he was skiing. Vengeance is
mine sayeth the Lord. Of course being a
liberal, if you’re white and male, means
you can never poke fun at another ethnic or
racial group or else you are forever branded
a bigot/racists/loser. But if a non-white
or a women tools all over white people and
men, shit, that’s OK with the liberals and they
actually think this is hysterical. Consider
this by columnist David Horowitz -

“I FIND IT more than just a little disgusting that BET is allowed to promote the politics of race hatred without a word being said by any commentator employed by any of the major news networks, including Fox.

“After watching BET for a week I determined that Caucasians seem to be receiving the highest volume of the hate and ridicule treatment, followed closely by jokes and skits that ridicule those of the Jewish faith.

“Most of the racist material is being generated by ‘brilliant’ black comedians that in lieu of any real talent have opted to pander to the spark of racism that resides in so many African Americans.

“Last night I watched a black comedian, clad in white face, a blond wig, topped with a baseball cap, receive ovation after ovation from the 100 percent black audience for his ‘hilarious’ characterizations of a ‘redneck.’ The routine went on for about ten minutes and from start to finish it was nothing less than a continuous stream of hate filled racist skits and one-liners directed at Caucasians in general, and rural white Americans in particular. One could easily draw a parallel between this black racist humor directed at Caucasians and Nazi humor directed at Jews in pre-WWII Germany.

“I wonder how much noise of a whining nature would be heard from black Americans if a WET (White Entertainment Television) station were to come into being? What would their reaction to white men in black face characterizing the speech patterns and mannerisms of black inner city crack heads and rural blacks be? How loud would the crying be if WET had the same hiring bias as BET? In that eventuality all of the major networks and the U.S. Department of Justice would be launching scathing preparatory verbal attacks followed by massive lawsuits designed to eliminate the media platform of the evil racist whites. Hell, the Justice Department legal teams would probably be taking their rest breaks sitting in front of a TV tuned to a BET comedy channel that featured a little ‘harmless, `black racism.’”

This from David Poe:

Welcome To the First Annual Hate Crime Hall of Shame

FrontPageMagazine.com | August 30, 2001

IN THE SUMMER OF 1997, three white Michigan teenagers jumped a train, looking for fun and adventure. They found tragedy instead. When the threesome disembarked in a strange neighborhood, they found themselves face to face with a gang of armed black hooligans.
The gang killed fourteen-year-old Michael Carter on the spot. Fifteen-year-old Dustin Kaiser got a bullet in the head, yet somehow survived.

The third victim, a fourteen-year-old girl, suffered the worst fate. She was pistol-whipped and forced to perform oral sex on the gang. Afterwards, they shot her in the face. While the atrocity received some attention from local media, it did not make the national news. The six perpetrators were later captured, but were not charged with any hate crime.

Writing about this case in his 1999 book Hating Whitey and Other Progressive Causes, David Horowitz noted:

“The crime took place on July 21, 1997, but among the readers of this book, there will not be one in a hundred who has even heard of it, because as a hate crime, it was in a perverse sense politically incorrect. To notice that black people, as well as whites, can be responsible for vicious crimes of hate is improper. Hate crimes can only be committed by an oppressor caste; therefore, what happened in Michigan was not a hate crime at all.”

Thus was born “Politically Incorrect Crimes” – a new concept in American jurisprudence and a regular feature of David’s FrontPageMagazine.com webzine. The feature was later renamed “Politically Correct Hate Crimes,” to reflect the fact that, when blacks kill whites, such acts are considered “politically correct” – even praiseworthy – by the leftist elite who run our law schools and criminology departments.

The name has changed, but the concept remains the same. Since February 2000, our “Politically Correct Hate Crimes” section has kept readers abreast of all the hate crimes your network news anchors don’t want you to know about, from the genocidal massacre of whites in Zimbabwe to the ex-NAACP leader beaten by fellow blacks because he dared to express pride in his native Southland’s Confederate heritage.

Just to clear up any confusion, we at FrontPage do not advocate prosecuting black people for hate crimes. We oppose hate-crime legislation altogether. When we point out the government’s failure to press hate-crime charges against certain black criminals, we do so only to expose the hypocritical sham that lies at the core of the hate-crime concept itself.

Some well-meaning black commentators, such as Earl Ofari Hutchinson and Clarence Page have bravely urged fellow blacks to support a more even-handed approach to hate-crime prosecution, in which black people are charged with hate crimes as readily as whites. But these writers, for all their good intentions, are trying to make a silk purse from a sow’s ear.

There is no place in a free society for “hate crime” laws. A prosecutor who probes deeply enough can pin a “hate crime” on anyone, as noted in my column, “Are You a Hate Criminal?”

A journalist can do the same. Whoever you are, given enough time and access to information about your private life, I guarantee that I can make you look like a racist, if I choose.

In a society that condones “hate crime” legislation, any person unfortunate enough to hurt, kill or even offend a person of another race in self-defense finds himself at the mercy of journalists and government bureaucrats who may or may not choose to demonize him, depending on their whim.

Take Bernhard Goetz. He shot and wounded four black youths who tried to mug him on a New York subway on December 22, 1984. The media and civil rights establishments branded Goetz a racist and demanded his head. He was jailed for possession of an unlicensed weapon, and slapped with a $43 million judgment from one of his attackers.

As FrontPage columnist John Perazzo notes in his book The Myths that Divide Us, Austin Weekes – a kind of black version of Goetz – had a far different experience. While riding a Brooklyn subway on the night of April 13, 1980, Weekes was accosted by two white teenagers who spat at him and said, “What are you looking at, nigger?” Weekes pulled a gun and shot one of them dead. A sympathetic grand jury let him walk.

With every major newspaper and television network beating the “hate crime” drum, our “Politically Correct Hate Crime” section may seem a feeble retort. But an old fable says that a boy once dared to call the Emperor naked – and an empire was forced to agree.

Our first annual Hate Crime Hall of Shame presents many shocking stories that first appeared in our “Politically Correct Hate Crime” section – as well as some that did not.

For this special edition we are indebted to many people: to our former web designer Rick Phillips who first conceived the idea of publishing a parody or retort to MTV’s one-sided hate-crime extravaganza last January; to Associate Editor Jennifer Kabbany who suggested asking all our FrontPage columnists to contribute to the special issue; and to Associate Editor Scott Rubush who compiled and edited the Hall of Shame.

Most of all, we are indebted to our war leader David Horowitz, editor-in-chief of FrontPage. When the passions of our day have subsided and the history books are written, I think they will call David Horowitz a man who spoke the truth when all around him fell dumb with fear.

The Hate Crime Hall of Shame is David’s gift to the world – a somber gift, brimming with blood and tears. Yet it is also a talisman of hope, filled with the power of truth which alone can heal our divided land.

In a time of cowardice, David has charged us with courage. In a time of silence, he has given us a voice. Thank you, David. We are proud to serve in your army.

You liberals, you’re a bunch of fruity assed
whack jobs!!!

Brock

dman- WHAT THE HELL DO YOU THINK MJ IS!!! ITS A FRIGGIN DRIG!!! BY DEFINITION!!! get with the program, dude. seriously.

Brock- holy crap, that was one of the greatest things I have ever read in my entire life. Was that one a goof post as well, or was it serious this time? Cuz, man, I totally loved it.

Stuck, Damn taking an awful beating. People who come at you that resentful of your actions must have had to struggle with the same thing in their lives. Anywho. What I would suggest is you buy a self hypnosis book or meditation book. Then find some time at least 30 minutes where you can be totally undisturbed. Find a nice quiet place and meditate relax totally and find what you want inside. After you have made your decision never look back. I will say that divorce is not a pleasant thing. While I do not agree with your actions I feel you should focus on what your actions should be and go with them. Choose your path and pursue it will all your worth.

Polyamorism is wonderful for people who are mature enough to realize that just because someone you love in turn loves someone else, that doesn’t mean you aren’t special to that person, or (more importantly) that your relationship with that person can’t be mutually satisfying and beneficial. My advice to you? Deconvert from whatever religion holds you in its snares, and embrace a life built on reason and rational self-interest. Then you will be free to love both this new girl and your wife, in open view of your wife and your children, and, of course, your wife will be free to pursue relationships with others, which will enhance the quality of her life and strengthen your bond with her.

Mike, the thing your missing is that, in the terms of marriage, two people commit to be faithful. do you think it is right to not honor your word, and to renegue on a deal?

All right Mikey, so you’re saying that polyamorism is ok, right? Send your sig over to my place (assuming you have one). Just don’t get pissed when she starts yelling out MY name in bed and asks you to grow long hair and a beard. And she will.

and while you’re living in mike’s perfict world be sure to say hi to the tooth fairy and ride a unicorn. give me a break. to have a relationship like he describes takes love, trust, commitment, complete openness, honesty, no self-esteem issues, and about a million other things. it also takes a long time to build these qualities. yes, there are people who have realtionships like that and are very happy…but those relationships START OUT that way - or take years to develop. mike, how do you see your computer screen with your head that far up your ass? ‘stuck’ you made a COMMITMENT to your wife…and then you had children with her so you have a COMMITMENT to them. according to mike you can go home from work tonight and tell her to start banging the hot new intern at her office, because it will make your marriage better. raise your hand if you believe this can happen! michelle looks around gee, how funny, no one thinks that idea could work!!!

Stuck, I didn’t feel the need to reply until Mike the Lib chimed in. I’m not gonna tell you what an asshole you are, Brock did that quite well, and you’re probably a bit too defensive by now to listen. I’m leaving politics out too because it’s been covered. I’m gonna tell you a story that is absolutely true. This is a 100% no-shitter as we used to say in the Navy. When I was in High School, I had a friend whose dad had an affair. This girl was smart, beautiful, got good grades in a very difficult private school, and had a lot of friends. Her dad, a real T-Man who was one of the original “frogmen”-now called Navy Seals- in Viet-Nam was a prominent attourney who made a good living for his wife and two daughters. He was a nice, down to earth guy, who after 20 years of marriage made the mistake of getting involved with his secretary. At this point the family started to fall apart. They tried to stay as a family, he promised to never see her again…yada yada yada…but it didn’t really matter. His wife was hurt by this. This is where Mike the Libs argument falls short. In the real world people are possesive as hell. She couldn’t trust him anymore. The kids were hurt because Dad did this to Mom and she cried all the time, drank and took pills. Soon the kids started drinking. My friend turned into an alcoholic by the time she was 17. And guess what kind of friends she had after that. Yep, people who drank too. Sound like a life you want for your kids and family? So let me fast-forward to today. Wife divorced husband, moved away. My friend was involved in a car accident, involving alcohol no less, is now paralyzed from the shoulders down, continues to drink and has had bouts with crack, crank, coke and anything else she can get. Her little sister lives with Mom, had a baby who Mom has to raise because she’s an alcoholic who has absolutely NO sense of responsibility-wonder where she learned that? And who knows how that kid is going to grow up. So stuck, what is your family going to go through? These “rules” that “forward thinking people” like Mike the Lib keep urging people to turn away from are actually there for a reason. They work. They are not some kind of theory. Brock gave you the best advice. Get another job, NEVER see this girl again, and spend the rest of your life making this up to your wife and kids. Whether you tell them or not is up to you and God. I vote no.