[quote]debraD wrote:
[quote]ouroboro_s wrote:
[quote]Stronghold wrote:
RE: Constructive criticism.
IMO, the MEANEST thing you can do for someone who wants to get better is blow smoke up their ass and not tell them where and why they suck.
Every serious (non-commercial gym) training environment that I’ve ever been a part of has been like that. You better have thick skin and open ears, or you’re not going to get better and people are going to stop wasting their time trying to help you.
I ride Buckeye hard in the gym because I want her to get better. She gets pissed sometimes when I tell her to change something, but she gets better, and she knows I’m not doing it to be mean. Bear will tell you that Jason does the same to her.
Go check out the BOI subforum sometime. Generally speaking, the guys in there don’t mince words (I know I don’t) if someone is sucking it up or half assing something. For a group comprised almost entirely of 19-25 year old dudes with high testosterone and everything that comes with that, you rarely, if ever, see anyone taking criticism personally. I made a post a while back telling another guy that he was being a goddamned retard, and he thanked me. If you want to get better, you listen to outside views. If you want to pretend you’re already better than everyone, you stick with your own little personal groupthink and don’t.[/quote]
I’m going to agree with this; particularly the first part about blowing smoke. We have a lifter who was never treated very seriously and would be told in the warm up room that his squats were good only to bomb. My guy took it upon himself to let the other guy know he was high and what he should do to fix it.
I get pissed off and annoyed as crap when BB picks apart my form and doesn’t tell me I’m god’s gift to powerlifting. .[/quote]
Too bad it’s not what is going on here.
Unless you consider lame hints in another thread that Nikki isn’t even reading about fake numbers and accusations of lying constructive criticism.
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Maybe not. I don’t know. I skimmed a lot of it because it was too many words. However, this point about blowing smoke jumped out and struck a note with me because it’s something we’ve discussed recently. I’m also unreasonably thin skinned and take things the wrong way quite frequently and have learned to toughen up at least a bit in regards to my lifting.