Sounds like you are very demanding. From an aesthetic standpoint you seem very concerned about areas that are very difficult to build. I wouldnt really recommend any books because I think that sends the wrong message. There are plenty of good books out there but your best bet is reading them in depth and also using T-Nation, reading the articles online by the authors on this site. Exercise selection is one of the easier parts of program design in my opinion. You really have to learn about proper progression, loading, periodization, this sort of thing. My opinion? Just start reading man. There are plenty of good books out there. One is Christian’s Black Book of Training Secrets.