I have found that over the past 3-4 months I cannot seem to go out nearly as much as any of my co-workers do and in fact I am turning down dates and invites from work friends and external friends of mine left and right for weekend outings. This is all due to budget reasons, not personal choice or disinterest.
I make the same or near the same as the people at work who have been asking me to go out on weekends (summers on a college campus are best times for faculty/staff to go out downtown since students are gone and we have minimal chance of running into the students who work for us).
Every weekend Thursday-Saturday some group of co-workers or friends of mine are going DT for a few drinks or a bite to eat or movies or a day trip to a near bye water park or museum. As a nice gesture they invite me most times. I can only afford to go maybe 2 or 3 times a month while they go every single weekend to these things...?
I make $2150 a month which leaves me about $250 for food, $50 for supps, $100 for gas and $50 for CEU courses, and then $100 for social spending all month. All else I make is ear marked for my rent, car loan, student loan, car insurance, cell, cable, utilities, internet, etc.
Most of these co-workers live in apartments that cost as much or more then my own and drive cars much more expensive then mine is as well. I am not sure where they are finding the $$ or where I am losing it which makes for such discord in lifestyles?
I feel like a recluse as of lately with how often I have to play the "cost too much" card. They even joke that I must be building a huge retirement fund with all the cash I save by not going out with them. Little do they know I have no retirement of any kind....