My only constructive suggestion would be to convert to Orthodox Judaism, learn modern Hebrew, move to Bnei Brek. I have a very smart, but super-awkward, gymnast nephew getting out of college soon, nobody can figure out a match for. Father loaded. Already completed his military service, but still works out hard. Squats 405; seen it with my own eyes. Accounting and Finance. Don’t think he’s gay because I caught him looking at lesbian porn when he was 12. Got a job lined up with a transnational accounting firm. Wants kids, so you need some birthing hips on you. I’ll totally set you up.
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How can you not have a schedule? Especially if you have a job and care for children? Throw working out into it and that’s all stuff that’s fairly set in stone.
What’s left is what’s left. What can he expect? Do Canadian women have lots of free time normally? Does he expect to play Monopoly whenever he gets the urge? It’s a strange thing to comment on. Who knows what he’s thinking? I don’t.
The last three dates/series of dates I’ve been on I had pretty clear reasons for not going further. One had kids (no offense to you, but I’ve already raised someone else’s child from age 4 to now 18, any future children will be mine). One had a tattoo of an ex’s name who just got out of prison on her forearm (in addition to many other tattoos, apparently). I don’t like tattoos much in the first place but I’m particularly not interested in any branded women. She took offense. Oh well. The other one was too self-absorbed (face in the phone way too much) and I just didn’t sense a good connection at all besides physical. She was on the wrong side of the half your age plus 7 rule too. I just told her that she was very nice but I was looking for someone closer to my age. She didn’t seem too bothered by it. I think she got what she wanted anyway.
“Your schedule is busy” is a non-answer if I’ve ever heard one. He’s obviously trying to leave the door open, but who knows for what? Up to you whether you slam it in his face or not.
I’m off to be the bouncer, and hopefully find Mrs. Right in a raucous dive bar on a Wednesday night. I’m sure lots of quality women will be out pounding drink specials in the middle of the week. Wish me luck!
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Like is an ambiguous word. Does it mean “I don’t hate you” or “I enjoy spending time with you” or does it mean “I could love you” and therefore I am interested in a relationship.
Understand that there’s not a man out there who hasn’t been asked this question and hasn’t had a follow up question around relationships the next time they met up (or doesn’t get dumped because the girl wanted an ego stroke before leaving lol)
In your context, he stated he enjoyed spending time with you. If you follow that up with questions about his feelings then it is not unreasonable for him to interpret it as a question about deeper feelings and intensions.
All that said, try not to feel too beat up by this. Most of us fail at this most of the time, sometimes we get a bit lucky. It likely wasn’t destined for success and I doubt anything you did changed that outcome. It is still a good exercise in understanding good ways to approach dating.
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Beat me to it.
I always thought a Chad was the kind of guy that would drug a chick and date rape her? Or is that now a Cosby, and a Chad is now just a “normal date rape” guy?
I’ve never had this reaction after sex. Even with one night stands where I knew it was never going any further. Usually I’d be thinking “that was fun, I hope she’s ready to go again soon.”
Then I got married, so now it’s just “that was awesome, can’t wait for next week!”
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Lol you had me until the wants kids part. I’m making appointments to get my tubes tied.
He sounds wonderful though!!
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I can tell you exactly what the ‘schedule’ thing is. That translates to ‘I want the option to call you when I can’t find anything else to do, but I’m not going to make plans with you more than an hour in advance’. He wants the option of seeing you whenever the mood strikes, but he’s not interested enough to do more than that. You’re a backup plan to him. Sorry.
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Well he is already making plans with me for friday so it seems his giving notice time is expanding.
The first two friday’s I had an hour notice
The third friday I had 6 hrs notice
now Im getting invited thursday at 11am for friday
THAT SEEMS LIKE AN IMPROVEMENT
Yes I am clinging
LOL
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That is. Not trying to ring the optimism bell, but that is a sign of looking forward to something.
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Just enjoy yourself, be in the moment, and try not to overthink everything. Easier said than done, I know, but give yourself a few minutes with this as your mantra before you meet up with him, let go and have fun.
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It’s important to remember, despite all the advice you’ve been given by well meaning people, that none of us reallllllllly know you or him, so just do your thing.
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Then I had kids, so now it’s just… well, I wont ruin the surprise lol
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Uh-oh zombie dating!
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My wife and I had 2 kids, and we (my wife and I, you sick fucks) have sex every day. Our kids are only 2 and 3 and we’ve only been married 5 years, so I don’t expect that to continue forever, but I know of plenty of married couples with kids who have lots of sex. I know of plenty more who don’t, though, so I guess it’s luck of the draw.
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I can’t imagine you meant this sentence to read the way it does, haha.
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My friend would like to speak with you in the kitchen.
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I just brought this pizza and condoms for like, no reason…
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We are going out for dinner !! I never go out for dinner !!!
Plz digestion dont make weird noises
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Time to break out the nice gym leggings!
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Pizza is its own reason, and condoms are, I thought, self-explanatory…
Ok so question
We made plans yesterday to hang Friday
Then we ended up going out for food and hanging last night.
Can I cancel for tonight without it being like “uh oh , she’s not interested!”
I’m tired lol
I cant hang two nights in a row . My poor sleep schedule needs me .
And I have to have energy for the pet expo tomorrow and usually on fridays I’ve been getting 3 hours of sleep because for some reason even though I go to bed at 2 I still wake up at my normal 5am wake up time .